Sexuality as we know it, especially as it pertains to men, hasn’t always looked the way it does today. In fact, it has been the subject of controversy and contention since its first mention many decades ago – back when sexually supercharged stars were first coming out the closet as homosexuals, bisexuals and sex addicts.
As it turns out, many of their behaviors and beliefs weren’t nearly as off-color as we initially thought they were. The male libido is a natural force that empowers men and allows them to live their best lives.
Fortunately, the topic has become much better understood in the last few years, bringing with it a whole new belief system and, as a result of the confusion, an entire generation that doesn’t know what to think when it comes to healthy sex.
What Is Sexuality?
The term “sexuality” can be defined in several different ways depending on which part of the male consciousness you’re referring to. For example, the word can be used to describe a person’s physical, mental and/or emotion capacity for sexualized experiences.
Someone with poor sexuality in that regard may exhibit extreme apprehensions in the bedroom as opposed to someone with an enriched sense of intimacy. The word can also be used to describe a person’s sexual orientation, meaning male sexuality is about more than just getting off.
The term also stands for the general act of erotic activity, so we need to be sure we’re considering context before subjecting men to a substandard belief system. Contrary to popular belief, male sexuality is just as rich, exciting and fulfilling as their female counterparts.
Determining Your Position
Aside from getting past the unnecessary social taboos that have been placed on the male libido, it’s also difficult to determine your position on the matter because a lot of misinformation is floating around.
Moreover, men are generally expected to behave a specific way when it comes to erotica and personal pleasure, especially those dealing with the opposite sex.
However, all men should have the right and ability to define (and redefine) their own sexuality based on nothing but their individual needs and desires. In other words, there should be no reason why any man alive in the modern world remains confused or afraid of what lies behind his zipper.
Once a man finally realizes that his sexuality is his concern alone, he begins to break out of his shell to become the sex god he was always meant to be. This is when things get good, especially for partners.
Determining the parameters of your sexual compulsions is a perfectly normal and highly recommended exercise, by the way, with many relationship experts suggesting this kind of exploration for struggling couples and individuals who feel held back in some way.
The interesting part about it all is that there are virtually no rules hindering men from the trial and error process other than our continual hate for people who change their mind.
To best determine your position as it pertains to male sexuality, try not to think about anything but yourself. No, seriously. It may sound harsh and egotistical but considering the thoughts and feelings of others at a time like this is a big mistake.
You’ve got to do what’s right for you, even if that means repenting or turning away from the type of guy you once were. The point is to find wholeness and happiness by whatever means possible, even if that takes letting go of certain people and unhealthy habits in your life.
Bottom line: Good sex keeps you healthy, wealthy and wise, which in turns extends your lifespan and improves the quality of your experiences.
Tips for Making the Most of Your Move
Finally figured out how healthy sexuality fits into your life? That’s great, but you’ll soon find out how difficult it is to maintain that kind of momentum without the proper support system in place.
Exploring one’s own sexual fantasies and orientation may be difficult for some men, but that doesn’t mean it’s impossible for everyone. Here are just a few tips and tricks that can be used to help you figure out what to do next:
- Contact a doctor to find out if there are any general health problems you should be concerned about, especially those that may limit sexual activity.
- Improve your appearance and hygiene in various ways to begin attracting the kinds of partners you’re into the most.
- Educate yourself on the latest and greatest sex toys, XXX media and erotica literature to become well-versed in the lifestyle of your chosen sexuality.
- Begin getting involved in a community of like-minded men who can support your choices and help you find healthy outlets to explore it.
- Occasionally reassess your position to make sure you’re still on a path that’s satisfying and beneficial to your overall wellbeing.