Sep 062010
A very happy Labor Day to all my US readers. Enjoy the last little bit of summer!
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A very happy Labor Day to all my US readers. Enjoy the last little bit of summer!
And a happy Labor Day to you too, AAG! Having been in school for two or so weeks already, this is a much-needed break for me :) Do something fun tomorrow yourself!
We have it, too! We have it, too! And back at you.
Happy Labor Day to you, too!
Apropos of nothing: I know you don’t usually use your blog as an advice column, but I have a dilemma and was wondering whether you or your excellent readers could help me.
My partner and I are planning to go to our first kinky play party next weekend, and we’re very excited to explore as a couple. The problem is that we have a friend who is also planning to attend for the first time – a friend who we do not want to get to know any better. The friend, on the other hand, has expressed more than once that he’s had fantasies involving us. Until now, we’ve just brushed those comments off, but the nature of the event we’re all planning to attend makes that response difficult; clearly, it’s time to set some boundaries. We want him to have fun, and we know that incidental sightings are inevitable, but we don’t want to play with our friend, and we don’t want him watching us if we choose to play. (He’s very much into exh/voy, and my partner and I both get a “creepy” feeling from the idea of him watching.)
Our friend has historically had difficulty recognizing boundaries, is almost hyper-sensitive to rejection, and definitely does not respond to hints. How can we set clear boundaries with him, without ruining anyone’s good time? Have you or any of your readers ever had to deal with this kind of awkwardness at a pervy party? Are we worrying for no good reason? Help!
He sounds like an extraordinarily bad candidate for a play party.
Ima post this tomorrow and see if we can get some answers for you, Kat.