Comments on: Someone Who Had Been Shot Every Day of His Life

By: Karen

Karen — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 04:33:43 +0000

Enough. Done. Self preservation kicks in.

By: Lilly 2

Lilly 2 — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 03:25:22 +0000

Sometimes even the best of therapy is emotionally exhausting, but this doesn’t sound like the best. I’m sorry it didn’t leave you feeling safer or more fulfilled.

By: Mountain Girl

Mountain Girl — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 18:58:31 +0000

After the description of the first appointment, I’m stunned you went back for a second one. Kudos to you for trying, and for not being bullied into continuing.

By: Shell

Shell — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 18:15:14 +0000

Hah! My second ex-husband did exactly that. He monopolized the weekly hour (which my health insurance was paying dearly for) to list my every fault, every real or imagined slight, and his superiority. Nowhere was his pending domestic violence charge brought up, and if I did try to introduce WHY we were in therapy, he’d cut me off and talk over me.

After about 5 such visits, I told the counselor that I’d be happy to come alone, but the couples thing just wasn’t working. He (the counselor) agreed and asked why I’d taken so much verbal abuse in the first place. That question cemented what I’d been afraid to admit and I filed for divorce within a week.

By: Finn

Finn — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 13:55:47 +0000

I’m sorry. xo

By: Outspoken Clitic

Outspoken Clitic — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 13:47:21 +0000

I’m gonna agree here. These sessions seem to *really* take it out of you, and if they’re doing that, they’re probably not all that helpful.

By: Robin

Robin — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 13:18:31 +0000

Thereapy is often difficult, and one doesn’t always leave a therapy appointment with the warm fuzzies. Having said that, it’s not acceptable or healthy for you to leave the appointment feeling beat up. I don’t know what’s happening at these appointments, and I don’t need to know, but if the therapist isn’t doing his job to keep the space safe for you, then I’d say the whole process is unproductive.

My apologies if this sounds harsh or uninformed.

By: Elodie

Elodie — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 03:10:45 +0000

Emotionally abusive people will use therapy as a tool to continue the abuse, which is why relationship counseling with emotional abusers pretty much doesn’t work.

You’ve given more than enough, I think.