The person who built my house thoughtfully placed two power receptacles on the wall most likely to house a future homeowner’s bed. For any other couple inhabiting the master bedroom that would surely be sufficient: a matched set of lamp and clock, one to each side of the bed.
That’s how it worked during my years as married woman, but once the bedroom belonged only to me I allocated one power outlet for practical purposes and reserved the other just for fun. Permanently plugged in are the Hitachi and the Eroscillator; when not in use the cords stretch long enough that the devices can hide beneath the bed, safe from the eyes of children and (mostly) unmolested by cats.
Now the Wahl jostles for space amidst the tangled cords of its compatriots. I’m in need of a power strip so that it can be permanently plugged in too. One day I’ll remember to buy it at the store, then all three weapons-grade toys can be deployed in service of my needs without bother or fuss.
Because I’m greedy like that, I often use multiple toys in succession. I love to start with slow, soft, throbby orgasms the Eroscillator gives, then move on to the pounding screaming thrashing force of the Hitachi before ending with gentle oscillating waves. Am I rendered dead by the Hitachi’s overwhelming force? Is my clit ruined for the delicate touch of battery-powered vibes? Do I long for something more powerful when a lover’s tongue caresses me?
Not bloody likely.
And here’s something really amazing: Even with the best sex toys money can buy, sometimes I just want my fingers. And they still work! I can pop off to the bathroom (or, ahem, the laundry room) and take care of business in less time that it would take another woman to fix her makeup.
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Like now! See how fast that was? (Gawd I feel so much better.)
Numb to more delicate pleasures of the flesh because of my arsenal of toys? Not hardly.
GASP!
OMG. I have a shopping list, and “power strip” is on it! Because my Hitachi, Wahl, computer cord, and phone charger all need to be plugged in, and I only have two outlets! Glad to know I’m not the only one with this problem.
Very interesting, and in particular shows that bodies react differently to different things… on many levels.
For me, the Hitachi can only be a rarity because it DOES desensitize me after regular use. Do I still use it? Yep, especially when I want/need/require a fast, hard O. But if I use it even every other day for more than a few weeks, it takes longer to get to that orgasm AND other vibratey things don’t work as well anymore. My fingers? Well, they’ll ALWAYS work because they’re completely different than anything else.
I’m just saying that you may be in the minority of people who are not desensitized because of weapons grade vibrators. And if that is the case, then bravo for you! I wish I were too!
Oh, and how has your clit not gone numb yet, what with all those high powered toys??
I am a special orgasmic snowflake.
What is that saying? Variety is the spice of life or something like that.
I love my toys and still can’t believe I didn’t own any until two years ago. (But don’t worry I’ve made up for lost time) There is always so much controversy and debate about sex toys. The other night I went out for drinks with friends and somehow ended up in a strip club. (Don’t ask) On our walk from the bar to the strip club I found myself in a debate about the njoy Eleven. As we walked the few blocks down the crowded NYC streets the group of us discussed the size and use of the Eleven. I also found myself a few weeks ago in Babeland with Figleaf and Tess discussing which toys we liked or disliked.
We all had different tastes, likes, dislikes but the one common things we had was a sharing of opinions and experiences. I personally like my hair pulled during sex but not everyone else does, and that’s okay as long as my partner is pulling my hair.
Now I am off to go buy myself a Wahl and a power strip.
What? No Sybian? Well, with a power strip you could plug one in with no problem.
I had something Sybian-like, but it wasn’t my favorite thing so I gave it away. :)
Desensitization isn’t a worry! Try any toys! If something does change your responsiveness temporarily, it’s easy enough to change back.
I remember an anecdote in a book about a man who masturbated roughly without lube. He skin had toughened up in response to it, so gentler stimulation was no longer effective. He was prescribed a course of masturbating with gentler and gentler materials, stepping down from sandpaper to silk.
Our bodies are wonderfully adaptable!
Your masturbation stories are always a major turn-on :)
Your clit may be holding up, but are you sure it’s not all your sex toys that’s shorting out your AC and dishwasher? hee hee
OMG!
YOU MUST BE SO RITE!
This whole debate is getting more and more confusing to me. Not just the whole Hitachi or not argument, but the whole idea that you can “train” or “ruin” your genital sensitivity/ability to orgasm. There’s many contradictory viewpoints, and sometimes opposing ones are held by sources I trust. For example:
* AAG’s experience here (responds to many different kinds of stimulation)
* Randy’s comment above, which is similar to advice of read in the Savage Love column about how guys who can’t get off from fucking “ruined” their cocks by masturbating too forcefully and needed to “retrain” them.
* The article you linked to in the above post about how the Hitachi will numb you to anything else.
* Reviews I’ve seen of sex toys on Violet Blue’s blog (?) which claim you can “train yourself to have gspot orgasms”
* “accept your fetish” advice and sex-positive guides where how you get off is how you get off, and it shouldn’t matter whether you need a toy/to crossdress/pain, it should be accepted as long as it’s consensual
On one hand, it’s a wonderful idea that I could “train” myself to orgasm from more traditional forms of sex. On the other hand, if the only thing that’s ever gotten me off is thinking about feederism, is that even possible? Ethical? Does everyone have the capacity to train or untrain themselves, or is it only certain people?
Imo, there’s nothing unethical about imagining whatever you want to imagine to help get you off. It’s all in your head, you aren’t hurting anyone.
Regarding training your body to orgasm: it’s such a mental thing. I can orgasm from kissing, for instance. And after using some pretty strong vibrators for a while now, if anything I orgasm more quickly during sex and my genitalia is more sensitive. Go figure.
Now I have a confession. I… I don’t like the Wahl. *runs away*
I fully support your right to hate the Wahl.
How many times did you try it? What did you hate? :: curious ::
I tried it twice.
I didn’t like the texture of the attachments, though the shape of a couple of them was nice. The lower vibration just felt sort of odd, and the higher vibration was way too high for me.
The Spot Tip (discontinued, but maybe available someplace) really fixes that problem. I agree that the higher vibration is way too much. :)
My only concern with this post is how much energy you’re wasting by having your toys always plugged in.
You are very correct about this.