THIS. Unless you expect people — women in particular — to be doormats.

People like the author of that offensive, unfunny, ignorant and poorly-written Liberator thing can dish it out but they can’t take it. I have zero respect for that.

Liberator’s article was entitled “Bad Pussy: Brutal Honesty from Guys”. Anyone who responded via a pissed-the-fuck-off e-mail, blog post or comment was just returning the favor. I’m sorry, but when a guy (who is also a doctor) writes publicly about how disgusted he is by having to see his patients vulva and ‘ass so monstrous you could park a truck in it’ or how grossed out he is by long labia, why is it then the readers responsibility to put a lid on their outrage and politely e-mail anyone?

You can’t write something intentionally offensive and expect people to not be offended by it.

I have no complaints, I was just responding to your query about the “in” crowd. It sounded like you were actually looking for an explanation from those who see it that way. If that wasn’t the case, then I apologize for making the wrong assumption.

Not at all sure where you get the “insecure” portion of your claim, but let me assure you that’s not the case. As far as being snarky, I’ve never claimed to be the paragon of innocence, but I always try to approach a subject with respectful deference before indulging in snark (which I hope you can agree is what I did with my first comment to the post). Something that I believe separates me from some others.

And thank you for your concern about my wellbeing, but I can also assure you that I have no problem making friends.

You may not have used profanity, but I certainly count this sweet little gem as name-calling.

Panda, I’m not sure what your major complaint is but I’ve got to tell you — you’re coming off as incredibly snarky and insecure in your posts on this thread. If you want to get along with people in the sex-blogging world or any other portion of the world, my advice would be to check yourself for the very things you’re criticizing in others.

I’ve been called out and attacked in comments sections of posts that have nothing to do with me and aren’t on my blog. I’ve been called more names than you can even imagine. How is me telling someone (to their face) that I think they’re mean, because they’ve been OUTRIGHT mean to me and questioned my ability as a mental health professional, my ability to watch children, my mental health, called me a drug addict, and countless other things “calling names?”

And why is it that you only seem to comment on my blog or reply to comments on many others (and, before I blocked you on Twitter and Facebook, there, too) when you have something critical to say about me? Find someone else to attack, please. I’ve heard your criticisms enough, and I get it.

The CRITICISM was on the *idea* that gushing was disgusting. People were upset about the expressed *opinion* that there was something gross about that physiological response — which was not satire and was not, at least to me, even a little bit funny.

Sadly, I feel that trying to explain this to you any further is a waste of my time.

And what about Epiphora? She commented on a post I wrote about role play, had never spoken to you, and you repeatedly called her a pedophile on Twitter. What grenade did she throw at you?