Seriously, Liberator? This is the best “sex positive doctor” could could find to write for you??
It was early in the summer of my second year of med school. After mastering anatomy, physiology, etc. you study physical diagnosis (you know, stethoscopes, tongue depressors, cough while I poke here, etc.) we were all dying to get out of the classroom and strut our stuff on the wards. Despite heads filled with science, we had no idea how truly hopeless we were, but we would soon find out. Finally, the moment of truth arrived. Live flesh!
Forget what you’ve seen on TV; the drill goes like this: you get a white coat, carry your precious little black bag full of brand new doctor goodies and get assigned to a hapless and trusting victim. “Hello, ma’am,” I say as I introduce myself to the enormously fat woman I was assigned. “I would like to examine you.” Now this is in a city hospital, and most of these folks were delighted by the special attention, so they invariably said, “OK.” As instructed, I dust off my finger and get down to business, starting at the top and working my way down, saving the worst part for last. Finally, its time for the rectal. Doing my best to seem cool and experienced, I discreetly recheck my script and say, “Now, ma’am, please roll on your side while I examine your rectum. She complies. God! Her ass is monstrous! You could lose an Abrams tank in there. I stifle a gasp and snap on a rubber glove and slather some K-Y on my eager finger. I recheck my instructions and…shit, it doesn’t say how to actually enter the uh, asshole. Picture it. 23 year old kid meets Black Hole of Calcutta. Beads of sweat appear on my forehead and start to trickle down my pits. Stay cool, I say to myself. You have to do this.
I gamely lift her top cheek only to be assaulted by the aroma of expired goat cheese. Looks like the freaking Holland Tunnel, no end in sight. Well, there’s no way is my face getting up close and personal with that…thing. I turn my face away, take a deep breath, close my eyes and extend my arm, aiming at the bottom of her bottomless pit. Thrust, parry, squish, and I wriggle in, when I hear her say, “Uh, that’s not my rectum.” Have you ever actually experienced your heart stopping? Well I have, and it’s not nice. Years later, I’m still grateful that the gods of medicine kept me from saying, “Yeah, well that’s not my finger.”
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Liberator, the blogosphere teems with folks who could write educational and sex-positive posts for you:
- @GarnetJoyce
- @PlanetMidori
- @sexpertkelly
- @DrRuthie
- @loveUduckydoo
- @HiOhMegan
- @EssinEm
- @Scarleteen
- @TristanTaormino
- @SarahSloane
Please check them out before allowing “kinkydoc” to do any more damage to your brand.
Readers, please add more sex-positive educators in the comments below?
Trained sex-positive educator at your service!
OMG! What an awful description of someone of an intimate exam by someone who’s supposed to be a sex positive educator?!?!?!?!?! Thank you for bringing this to our attention and for recommending that Liberator find other, more appropriate and respectful, sex educators!
@biancalaureano
@pinksexgeek
@postmodsexgeek
@PinkSexGeek
I really should be packing for my weekend with Ducky and the LU Educators, but this is far more engrossing. Thanks for pointing it out in the first place, beyond the service to the world, personally I am far more productive when filled with righteous rage.
I’m hoping that Liberator will see the righteous indignation this dude’s posts have created and will HIRE SOME REAL SEXUALITY EDUCATORS!
I’m not a trained sex educator, but I wanted to cheer on the idea of having them replace Dr. Bodysnark with just about anyone else. Seriously, a PhD does not a sexpert make.
We are a sex-positive sex education teaching collective based out of Philly. We work primarily with adults looking to maximize their pleasure. @ScrewSmart
Oh goodness, that’s appalling! I might expect to see something like that in unofficial med school forums (because some people are always going to tell this kind of story, because some people will always laugh), but seeing it presented as sex-positive sex education? Yikes.
Get a clue, Liberator. If you want a sex-positive doctor to write for you, spend a little more time searching for one who really is sex-positive. Because this is not ok.
…and this is why I want to go into the sexual health/education field: BECAUSE SOME PEOPLE ARE FREAKING MORONS AND THEY KEEP DISSEMINATING TERRIBLE INFORMATION. *facepalm*
So who exactly is supposed to be taking sex advice from this “doctor” who is neither sex-positive nor professional in terms of practicing medicine?
This one is also choice (@PinkSexGeek did a screengrab before it was taken down):
http://pinksexgeek.com/pix/sexgeek/liberatorfail.jpg
Really? Describing larger labia minora as “fatty tuna” and saying that it’s a flaw on the woman’s part, calling her a “sushi queen”? Gross.
I can understand taking issue with genuine uncleanliness, but so much of this is woman-hating and body-hating, and I am NOT pleased with Liberator for allowing this stuff on their site.
OMG! This is the one that really pissed me off!
I’m glad its down but I do wish they had thought before putting it up.
don’t forget @DrDickSexAdvce ;-)
Dr. Dick! How could I have left you out!
While kinkydoc’s sense of humor and professionalism leave quite a bit to be desired, I have to admit that the English major in me is most appalled by his grammar. Dude, get an editor already.
Yeah. That too. :(
That’s disgraceful and not even remotely funny. I hope this man is not actually practicing medicine anywhere.
God! Her ass is monstrous! You could lose an Abrams tank in there… Well, there’s no way is my face getting up close and personal with that…thing.
I’m so glad this man is not my doctor. At least, I *hope* he’s not my doctor! That’s appalling. I’ve been writing sex ed posts for Fascinations! And I also give seminars and ish on sex and whatnot, so technically, I could write posts :)
And… I can close my HTML tags, I swear.
FIFY
:)
That makes me feel really really ashamed ._.
I’m a fat woman. Is this what my doctor thinks every time I have to go in for a checkup?
Same here, DD. Same here. :(
Ha! I sent Liberator an email to all of the listed email addresses on their website. That will teach ‘em!
Actually, they probably don’t care and won’t even read it. They really should think before they post such things. And they can find somebody else to write blog posts. Let KinkyDoc express his sex-negative misogyny on his own personal blog. His brand of misinformation and snark has no place anywhere near an adult products website.
There are plenty of 15-year olds who could give better sex advice than this guy. How Liberator even found him is a mystery to me.
Appalling unprofessionalism and a lack of someone who knows the first thing about public relations seem to be more common in the sex toy industry than I would ever have guessed.
This post makes me frightened to go see a doctor if this is what the doctor is thinking. This is why I *don’t* ever want to go to a doctor.
This guy is a jackass. I found this downright insulting.
Not only is this guy an ass for thinking these things, but then he has to go and publish them on the internet? Disgusting. Liberator ought to be ashamed of themselves for allowing someone like this any kind of public exposure. I’m surprised there aren’t more negative comments on the actual article though…maybe we should be venting our annoyance where Liberator can see it directly?
Gray
I emailed them this post and asked them to consider hiring *real* sexuality educators instead of this putz. We’ll see what happens.
AAG, thank you for posting this. I’m hoping that this person was not sought out, but rather was just a commentor? Did they respond to you?
On a side note, I train medical students how to give nice, non-tramuatic pelvic exams but many medical schools do not train their med students how to ever do a rectal exam, they just expect them to know. In the past month, I’ve had 2 3rd year medical students state that they didn’t know where the rectum was located on a clearly defined pelvic examiner.
Be it discomfort with dealing with the rectum or thinking that it doesn’t need to be or maybe that they think the student will know what to do, this clearly shows, they do not.
I would be curious to know if we can find out what medical school this person attends and check in to see what their sex ed courses consist of. It could be turned into a teaching tool.
Megan,
Someone else ran across another post by this doctor where he discussed bad-smelling vaginas and labia minora that weren’t small enough for his liking.
OH LOOK. Here’s the post: http://britisshameless.com/2010/05/bad-pussy-or-wtf-liberator/
I emailed Liberator with the suggestion that they hire some more compassionate educators. They seemed to think that this was “humor” and not to be taken seriously.
:(
Wow this is terrible. Is this the same guy who wrote the post about ugly nasty pussies? I went back to look at that one later and it was down, too. I sure wonder what Liberator was thinking, almost makes me want to take a crap on my Wedge.
One and the same.
But according to their twitter, they see this all as “humor,” dontcha know!
No more of those “boring” how-to guides!
Wow. It’s like they copied that verbatim from Derailing for Dummies.
They call this humour? I wasn’t aware that giving inaccurate information (labia come in all shapes and sizes, people!) was funny? Oh, and where is the information? I didn’t learn anything from these posts except that I don’t want to know what doctors think about as they examine me.
This does not pass for sex ed! There are plenty of sex educators out there with wicked senses of humour, excellent writing skills, and stellar knowledge.
Oh, and am barking up the wrong tree by saying that his comment about patients in public hospitals stinks of classism?
I’m suddenly and powerfully reminded why I’m pursuing a doctoral degree in Women’s Studies.
Ew. And seriously Liberator, WHY would I drop hundreds of dollars on products of yours when THIS is the doctor you get to give sex advice? This isn’t funny. Not at all. And I am quite the fan of disgusting humour.