Comments on: The Abortion is a Blessing

By: Georga

Georga — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 05:01:39 +0000

I have seen a lot of things in the last almost 40 years of my life. I have personally known 13 year old girls with babies (the one father was just a couple years older, the other was 27 – her mother had no problem with letting her 13 year old date a 27 year old guy). I knew someone else who through 8th to 12th grade had multiple abortions every year because she couldn’t be bothered to use a condom and her mother thought she was a virgin. She looked at abortion the same way as she looked at changing her clothes, it was no big deal. I also know someone who is spending time is jail for having sex with his under age daughter who ended up pregnant. They kept the baby. Despite being married and in a stable relationship with the same person for the last 18 years and being able to financially take care of them without the help of public assistance (that seems to be a big thing for people) I have had people tell me, including my own mother, that I should have never had seven children and I should have aborted a number of them. I don’t understand how people think nor do I understand many things that happen in the world. No matter what decision someone makes regarding anything someone else is going to condone them for it. In a perfect world there would be no need for abortion but the world we live in is imperfect. I don’t like the idea of abortion but at the same time I would never want that option taken away from anyone.

By: Sarah

Sarah — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 00:54:41 +0000

I agree with others above that it was the use of the word “blessing” to describe the lesser of two evils that disturbed me with this article. I do consider myself pro-choice, but if I were ever in a situation where I chose abortion over bringing a baby to term, I would not be popping a cork and celebrating the decision.

By: critter

critter — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 00:16:38 +0000

Abortion is a blessing.
As is divorce.

By: BlkSwanPres

BlkSwanPres — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 20:56:25 +0000

Well if you look at some of the medical advance that stemmed from the horrendous experiments carried out…

By: BlkSwanPres

BlkSwanPres — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 20:06:40 +0000

Most definitely!

By: BlkSwanPres

BlkSwanPres — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 20:01:01 +0000

While I do agree that it isn’t a perfect situation, but if the mother does not want the child and the father does but its still her right to terminate it, how can a father be held accountable to pay child support for a child that he wanted aborted but the mother wanted to keep? I do agree that its a woman’s choice but its a whole lot to think about, father’s sometimes have very little rights.

By: Bea

Bea — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 20:22:56 +0000

This gets me too. Abortion IS a form of birth control. It controls birth. It makes you not give birth until you want to give birth. Is it an *ideal* form of birth control? Not really, because it gets expensive and can be hard on the body. But it’s not my business if someone else chooses to use it multiple times. What’s best for them is up to them.

By: Bea

Bea — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 20:20:44 +0000

My parents’ divorce was definitely a blessing. They were miserable together, as much as they cared for each other. After their divorce they became wonderful friends and coparents. Their platonic love is much deeper and stronger and healthier than their romantic love ever was. He was there for her when she had cancer, and she is good friends with his new partner. That’s not just “better than the alternative,” it’s the best possible outcome, and it’s beautiful.

I think depending on who you are and what your circumstances are, abortion can be a blessing. It can be a choice which is liberating and healing. It won’t be that for everyone — sometimes it’s a bittersweet relief, sometimes it’s a very sad choice — but I know people for whom it was a wonderful, beautiful thing.

By: aag

aag — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 14:41:34 +0000

I appreciate the site so much, Patricia:

http://www.imnotsorry.net/

Some forget that “choice” means being able to take any legal option, not just “have an abortion.”

By: Patricia

Patricia — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 03:55:52 +0000

What drives me nuts–and I’ve seen a couple of examples of it here–are the “backhanded” pro-choicers. Having to have one abortion is okay, but if you get more than one you’re “using abortion as birth control” or “you need to learn how birth control works.” Just as a woman like AAG’s kids’ birth mother N is condemned for bringing multiple children into the world that she is seemingly incapable of raising, a woman who has had multiple abortions gets the same condemnation, with the added bonus of getting called a murderer by the more, uh, compassionate. Whatever choice we make, we’re fucked in more ways than one. But yes, abortion is often a blessing. It was for me and for many other women. I felt so strongly that I created a website where women could tell their stories. Yes, I linked it. :)