Comments on: Extra Glowiness

By: David H

David H — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 09:27:26 +0000

Anyone who’s been reading your blog since the early days will confirm that the break-up of your marriage wasn’t due to you not making great efforts to keep it going :o)

By: Joanna Cake

Joanna Cake — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 22:04:43 +0000

I found out recently that my ex is communicating with a woman who used to have the hots for him when we were first dating 30 years ago. It was stange because I didnt feel jealous. I do want him to be happy. But, so often, when I go back to the house, I do wish that we had been able to make it work. That we were looking forward to celebrating our Silver Wedding in two years time. To still love and be loved.

And then I beat myself up that I should have done more to make it work, until I remember that I sewed and darned and mended for years and years and years, both in reality and metaphorically, but if the other half is undoing the knot from the end of the thread or, worse still, actively unpicking the stitches, the whole thing is going to fall apart.

Life is what it is and some parts of it come to an end. To be able to remain on good terms with your ex is a huge victory in itself. Well Done!

By: Finn

Finn — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 14:52:00 +0000

You could run up ball gowns in hour and it probably wouldn’t have made any difference. Things happen for a reason — at least I believe they do, and I haven’t been proven wrong yet. You just have to be patient while the reason reveals itself.

By: Finn

Finn — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 14:49:24 +0000

Hey… I was going to say that. Sort of. ;)

By: The Panserbjørne

The Panserbjørne — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 14:44:44 +0000

If you’ll pardon me running with the metaphor some more, sewing skills are not enough to keep some fabrics from unraveling. Not even the best seamstress can keep a garment together when it’s having threads yanked upon from multiple directions at multiple times, and from what I’ve been able to discern that was the way with your marriage.

So — envy the seamstress if you like for a bit, but don’t fault your own sewing skills. You are, after all, creating a lovely fabric of your own nowadays.

– PB

By: aag

aag — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 14:24:51 +0000

Damn. I was hoping. :)

By: Circe

Circe — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 14:00:05 +0000

Heh. No such luck.

By: aag

aag — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 13:57:48 +0000

Oh dear. So is he calling you LESS now that he has such comfort in his life?

By: Circe

Circe — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 11:38:21 +0000

You know what’s . . . I was going to say “funny” but it may be the wrong word. My ex-husband seems to be living with a woman who is not only much older than I am but also a substance abuser with mental health issues. This is a good catch for him, as she collects SSI, has public housing, and has somehow managed to get him on her Food Stamp benefit account. Next time he calls, I’ll ask him if she sews. ;)

By: Nadine

Nadine — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 05:23:01 +0000

I know that feeling…but don’t let bring you down…we always do our best to leave the family intact and it is made all the worse when we have no partner is that goal…you and I know both know that sewing skills don’t make or break a relationship…would that it was that easy.
xoxo