“Two Shot,” read the newspaper headline. I looked at the pictures and read the article closely, as shootings aren’t common in my mostly safe little town. Details were sketchy only hours after the incident but the reporter alluded to drugs and gang violence as potential motives.
“Ah, they were mixed up in that business,” I thought, and some shameful portion of my brain muttered, “Serves them right.” An even deeper part of my brain filed the incident away under the category of “Things Which Will Never Happen To Me Because I’m Smarter Than That.”
It wasn’t until several hours later that the news spread through my group of acquaintances. The shooting didn’t happen to some random junkie couple but instead to friends, both of whom were at that moment in the hospital, the wife in serious but stable condition and the husband in critical condition.
Born in a family which for generations married and reproduced later in life, I grew up with dying as a regular occurrence. I’d gone to funerals, witnessed grief, sat at the bedsides of relatives near death. But it wasn’t until the next morning when I visited my friends in the hospital that I saw in their eyes the look of people who were terrorized by what had happened to them over the past day and a half. Pain, fear and shock rolled off them. I gingerly squeezed hands then fled, unnerved by the emotions.
Only a few hours later phones began ringing again. They were being moved to a new hospital at the insistence of their insurance company. Still in critical condition, the husband needed to be transported by ambulance across town. We all waited in the new hospital for their arrival, which was delayed for hours as they worked to make him stable enough for the ten-minute trip.
The shooter was caught prior to our friends’ return home; he was tried and sentenced before either of them made a full recovery. In fact they’ve not yet made a full recovery even though the shooting happened nearly six years ago. Both deal with permanent physical limitations from the incident. One’s shoulder will forever hold bullet fragments; the other manages a knee that neither straightens nor bears weight particularly well. The emotional damage is harder to quantify but no less significant.
Were they mixed up with drugs and gangs as was originally suggested by the newspaper? Only in the most tangential sense; the shooter had been sent to their apartment complex to settle a drug debt but had mixed his instructions. He was told to find the third building from the road. Instead he ended up at its neighbor. His boss, you see, had not included the pool house in his count. The shooter had.
As you can no doubt imagine, my friends’ medial bills ran well into six figures. “They must have had horrible insurance,” you’re probably thinking, and that’s one of the great ironies of this tale. From years before the attack until this very day they have both been employed by a very large, nationwide company which has a reputation for treating their employees well. They have the same insurance now that they had then. And all these years later and despite numerous fund-raising events and private donations, they still owe tens of thousands of dollars that they’ll be paying down for years to come.
A seductive hubris suggests that only people who are stupid end up in trouble. I can no more avoid this kind of thinking than can the Fox News set. “They were involved with drugs,” I originally thought about the shooting. “Surely they got exactly what they deserved.”
Victim-blaming provides a tantalizing degree of comfort. We all want to believe that if only we do things right we will never face the kind of situation that leaves us broken as well as broke. We can reduce risk — but we cannot avoid it altogether. Even the most fastidiously careful of us could end up in a situation like my friends. Fastidiously careful doesn’t help much when cars wreck or when cancer cells grow undetected or when drug dealers miscount buildings.
Each of us lives on a tiny island in the midst of a sea so vast we can barely remember we have neighbors. If we need anything at all we must travel to the mainland but here’s the catch: not a one of us can stay there forever. We need boats — reliable, easily operated boats — to get us there and then return us home safely. Some people avail themselves to luxury yachts for their travel needs. Some are satisfied with the most basic models. Those with the means schedule regular voyages to the mainland so that their needs are taken care of when they’re manageable. Whenever possible they stock up. They try to be fastidiously careful.
But what happens to the people who lose their boats or cannot afford any boat at all? Each time something goes wrong — and things go wrong for every single one of us from time to time — an emergency rescue operation must be launched to bring these souls in. An emergency rescue operation which is horribly expensive and not set up to meet these needs.
The only other option? Stay home. Stay home and wait until something changes, but the only thing that ever actually changes is that the problems become worse until finally the resulting rescue operation is more expensive than ever.
Wouldn’t it make more sense to schedule regular boat service available to even the poorest?
I would much rather pay for that than for emergency rescue operations, and do you want to know why? Because even though I am in most things fastidiously careful, sometimes drug dealers miscount houses.
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Oh, AAG, if I went in for girl-crushes, I’d be all over you! Instead I’ll just say that you’ve been so eloquent in your recent series of political posts, I wish you were on the White House speechwriting team. You’re developing into a sort of anti-Peggy-Noonan. And I mean that in the most complimentary way possible. :-)
Also, speaking as the wife of a two-time cancer survivor: No one is immune. Much of American culture is an edifice to convince us otherwise. Nonetheless, no one is immune.
Thanks, Sungold. It is amazing how many people fervently believe that they’re safe from any kind of catastrophe.
All of your writing towards health care reform is great. And thanks for the links to let our congress members know how we feel. Unfortunately, they are not really interested all that much. I think it’s great that some want to get involved, but I am one of those who have given up (not only on this issue, but pretty much on the way this country is run). The cause is great, but this place is too far gone.
I will happily continue working. I will happily continue paying my taxes. I have seen “My government” in action way too many times. I earn a good living. I live in a nice house. I live in the outskirts of New Orleans, LA. I witnessed Katrina up close. I witnessed the Katrina nightmare. God help those who ever find themselves needing help from our leaders. I hope I can make it on my own with my own little boat. Those guys in Washington do not deserve my time …1
Thanks for posting this, aag. People do seem to think that if they just take good care of themselves that nothing bad will happen to them and those who are in debt because of healthcare costs somehow brought it on themselves. I think we need more people to hear about *real* people who have had things like this happen to them.
So, again, thanks for sharing. I really do believe that little things like this post DO matter and can make a difference.
There but for the grace of God (or fate or whatever) go I, right?
This, as with most everything, comes back to treating other people the way you would want to be treated. It’s that simple and that complicated.
I am soooooo loving this.. thanks for writing and posting..
My wife and I were on a Mediterranean cruise last month and 80% of our fellow travellers were American. We met some very interesting, very nice people and enjoyed their company. One couple we shared a table with at dinner one evening came from New Jersey and I made the simplistic assumption that they’d be reasonably liberal.
But no – they started to irritate the life out of us and also the other English couple on the table with their anti-Obama, anti health care reform nonsense. The English might whinge about the NHS but we all know that in a crisis it’s unbeatable, so having it implied that having a National Health Service made us Commies didn’t go down very well.
At 4am yesterday my elderly aunt fell over in her apartment, called the warden who called for an ambulance. Daphne was immediately taken to hospital to be checked over. At 7.30am the warden called me to tell me, and at 8am I called the hospital. Daphne had already been X-rayed, found to have a broken hip and had been scheduled for surgery. I was asked to call again at 10am.
When I called I was told that she’d been taken to theatre for a hip replacement and that I should call again at 2pm. When I next called she was back on the ward, conscious and in good spirits, and I went to see her at 3.30pm. She’d been operated on without general anaesthetic because their were concerns about how well she’d cope, and she was completely untroubled by the whole procedure.
So, she fell at 4am and within eight hours she had a new hip joint. Cost? Not one single penny, not for the operation, not for the after-care, not for the various bits of equipment that will now be installed in her apartment to help her get about and be safe there.
I’m a life-long atheist and it increasingly baffles me that the very people in the US who bang on intolerantly about their religion seem to be the same ones who want to take absolutely no interest in the health and welfare of their fellow citizens, of whatever age or means. Have these people never heard the parable of the Good Samaritan? Their position seems to me to be based entirely on personal greed, which I understood to be a Deadly Sin.
I wish Obama well in what seems this side of the Atlantic a reasonable, moderate and unremarkable programme, but it looks as if reactionary forces will block him long enough to kill his plans :o(
Oh, I’m so sorry to hear about your aunt. Hip fractures are so common and so scary in the elderly. But I am glad that she received such rapid care.
Thank you so much for your eloquent and insightful thoughts on this subject.