Comments on: Bathing Suit

By: Lisa

Lisa — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 01:30:36 +0000

You teach the kids confidence and that you care more about them than anything else. THe other kids who live with perfect-mommy-hair must have been so sad. But perhaps those kids have already learned not to expect such simple, easy, fun moments from their parents. Free. Not scripted.

By: etre

etre — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 04:43:15 +0000

I’m not a parent, and don’t have the smallest iota of maternal instinct.

Your story made me recall an afternoon I spent at the beach with a co-worker and grade-school-teacher wife who had young children. And as I sat in the sand idly making mudpies and showing the kids how, I realized I was the only adult “getting my hands dirty” that afternoon.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 03:00:31 +0000

Unfortunately this is the day of grown adults putting their concerns about how they look in front of the needs of their children. Mind you I live in southern CA and it’s a lifestyle for most people… but I worry about these kids who see how their parents behave and what they find important.

Your kids will only remember that you did things with them. Not how you looked doing it. Those other poor children will remember that mommy didn’t want to get her makeup messed up.

And we wonder what’s happening to kids these days!

By: aag

aag — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 01:50:54 +0000

Good for you…and GOOD LUCK!

By: maydeva

maydeva — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 01:29:18 +0000

Thank you so much for this! I, too, have been struggling with these issues lately. Tomorrow, I will be brave and remember how much it means to my son and that self-confidence is the best aphrodisiac. :)

By: Lilly2

Lilly2 — Sat, 18 Jul 2009 08:25:03 +0000

There are at least 3 small souls that cared very much that you did not miss parent’s day.
Getting my mom to swim with us was always a moment of pure happiness and triumph for us as children!

By: Randy

Randy — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 20:24:45 +0000

When I was a child I had no idea my parents were significantly older than my peers’. I did however, know they were there in attendance supporting me and encouraging me!

It sounds to me like you were beautiful and behaved meaningfully that day, while those others were cold and inconsiderate and yes, ugly–teaching their impressionable little ones entirely the wrong message.

By: Summer

Summer — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 17:27:47 +0000

Jump in that pool. I’m sure your children were the envy of all the other swimmers whose parent sat high and dry. Perhaps some of the “beautiful” mothers were envious too.

By: Shell

Shell — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 15:54:32 +0000

Good for you! I have one word for the dry bikini types: Selfish.

In ten years will your kids remember the day for you spending time with them, or for how you looked in a swimsuit? That’s truly what counts.

I’m also a firm believer that true beauty radiates from the inside and isn’t reflected in the physical.

By: zn

zn — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 14:05:07 +0000

You are brave and you love your children the other parents clearly do not have your braveness x love index. To back this up I remember a post about a child left in the snow (I can’t find it though).