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		<title>By: aag</title>
		<link>http://aagblog.com/2009/01/05/update-on-edenfantasyscom-problems/comment-page-1/#comment-21480</link>
		<dc:creator>aag</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 19 Jan 2010 03:52:55 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I wrote it because I didn&#039;t want anyone else to get burned the way I was. Hope it helped.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I wrote it because I didn&#8217;t want anyone else to get burned the way I was. Hope it helped.</p>
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		<title>By: The Beautiful Kind</title>
		<link>http://aagblog.com/2009/01/05/update-on-edenfantasyscom-problems/comment-page-1/#comment-21478</link>
		<dc:creator>The Beautiful Kind</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 19 Jan 2010 02:49:57 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>This is so disheartening. I&#039;ve been so let down lately by people who have approached me with business ideas and money making opportunities. This only reinforces my lack of trust... I hate having my time wasted by thoughtless, insensitive scoundrels! 

Thank you for sharing this invaluable info.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>This is so disheartening. I&#8217;ve been so let down lately by people who have approached me with business ideas and money making opportunities. This only reinforces my lack of trust&#8230; I hate having my time wasted by thoughtless, insensitive scoundrels! </p>
<p>Thank you for sharing this invaluable info.</p>
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		<title>By: Gabrielle</title>
		<link>http://aagblog.com/2009/01/05/update-on-edenfantasyscom-problems/comment-page-1/#comment-15931</link>
		<dc:creator>Gabrielle</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 26 Jan 2009 05:41:17 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Sorry, no lawyers available here.  I don&#039;t know your full situation since I started catching up with your from only the beginning of this year.  I&#039;m sorry you are in such an ugly spot.  Hope it all works out for you!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Sorry, no lawyers available here.  I don&#8217;t know your full situation since I started catching up with your from only the beginning of this year.  I&#8217;m sorry you are in such an ugly spot.  Hope it all works out for you!</p>
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		<title>By: ThatToyChick</title>
		<link>http://aagblog.com/2009/01/05/update-on-edenfantasyscom-problems/comment-page-1/#comment-15727</link>
		<dc:creator>ThatToyChick</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 10 Jan 2009 17:33:41 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>In all seriousness, if this ends up geographically relocating to the source of the issue and you still want to pursue it, you have a couch, a home cooked meal, and a ride waiting for you if you need to come this way.

You go girl.

&lt;strong&gt;Thank you so much, honey.  I do appreciate the offer.  --aag&lt;/strong&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In all seriousness, if this ends up geographically relocating to the source of the issue and you still want to pursue it, you have a couch, a home cooked meal, and a ride waiting for you if you need to come this way.</p>
<p>You go girl.</p>
<p><strong>Thank you so much, honey.  I do appreciate the offer.  &#8211;aag</strong></p>
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		<title>By: J II</title>
		<link>http://aagblog.com/2009/01/05/update-on-edenfantasyscom-problems/comment-page-1/#comment-15684</link>
		<dc:creator>J II</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Jan 2009 04:36:57 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Hi AAG,

I&#039;m in law school, and while my real world experience is quite limited, J really hit the nail on the head with her advice. A local law school  will probably be able to give you free legal counsel, or at the very least, any local library will likely have resources on basic civil procedures.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hi AAG,</p>
<p>I&#8217;m in law school, and while my real world experience is quite limited, J really hit the nail on the head with her advice. A local law school  will probably be able to give you free legal counsel, or at the very least, any local library will likely have resources on basic civil procedures.</p>
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		<title>By: aag</title>
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		<dc:creator>aag</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 07 Jan 2009 13:38:54 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&lt;b&gt;You know, I never thought of that!  &lt;/b&gt;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><b>You know, I never thought of that!  </b></p>
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		<title>By: Snowbunny</title>
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		<dc:creator>Snowbunny</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 07 Jan 2009 11:56:22 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Your mother would be so happy if you married a lawyer!  It would almost make up for the, you know, godlessness of sexing and all...

Sooo many good things can come out of your court dates.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Your mother would be so happy if you married a lawyer!  It would almost make up for the, you know, godlessness of sexing and all&#8230;</p>
<p>Sooo many good things can come out of your court dates.</p>
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		<title>By: Kochanie</title>
		<link>http://aagblog.com/2009/01/05/update-on-edenfantasyscom-problems/comment-page-1/#comment-15663</link>
		<dc:creator>Kochanie</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 06 Jan 2009 09:37:50 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&lt;em&gt;So it seems that before our next date I need to be able to argue intelligently that I did indeed sue the correct person in the correct place.&lt;/em&gt;

When I worked as an independent contractor, I encountered a similar situation with a client who owed me a substantial sum.  Based on that experience, I think J&#039;s comment succinctly outlines your next step(s) in this dispute. A business agreement or letter of understanding signed by both parties usually specifies where disputes will be adjudicated, your state or that of the other party.

&lt;em&gt;If I don’t hold firm, I encourage him to play these same games with every other person who ends up working for him in the future.  I’d prefer that this not happen.&lt;/em&gt;*

I disagree, aag.

As one client said to me, &quot;If you are serious about success, you can&#039;t afford the luxury of a grudge.&quot;  Your reputation in business rests upon your ability to form and maintain good working relationships.  &lt;em&gt;All&lt;/em&gt;  business transactions are subject to misunderstanding.  That&#039;s why we have small claim courts.  A written business agreement cannot cover all possible areas of dispute.

As for pursuing this claim to discourage the other party from &quot;playing games&quot; -- here you are confusing a business transaction with advocacy for social justice.  I think both you and your former business client have learned from this experience.  So cut your losses now. J&#039;s suggestion that this is an opportune time for both parties to consider a settlement offer is sound advice. 

If I could offer a moral to this story, as in the famous &lt;em&gt;Fractured Fairy Tales&lt;/em&gt;, it would be this:

&lt;em&gt;Hold firm in bed.  Be flexible in business.&lt;/em&gt;

Know that I wish you the best.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><em>So it seems that before our next date I need to be able to argue intelligently that I did indeed sue the correct person in the correct place.</em></p>
<p>When I worked as an independent contractor, I encountered a similar situation with a client who owed me a substantial sum.  Based on that experience, I think J&#8217;s comment succinctly outlines your next step(s) in this dispute. A business agreement or letter of understanding signed by both parties usually specifies where disputes will be adjudicated, your state or that of the other party.</p>
<p><em>If I don’t hold firm, I encourage him to play these same games with every other person who ends up working for him in the future.  I’d prefer that this not happen.</em>*</p>
<p>I disagree, aag.</p>
<p>As one client said to me, &#8220;If you are serious about success, you can&#8217;t afford the luxury of a grudge.&#8221;  Your reputation in business rests upon your ability to form and maintain good working relationships.  <em>All</em>  business transactions are subject to misunderstanding.  That&#8217;s why we have small claim courts.  A written business agreement cannot cover all possible areas of dispute.</p>
<p>As for pursuing this claim to discourage the other party from &#8220;playing games&#8221; &#8212; here you are confusing a business transaction with advocacy for social justice.  I think both you and your former business client have learned from this experience.  So cut your losses now. J&#8217;s suggestion that this is an opportune time for both parties to consider a settlement offer is sound advice. </p>
<p>If I could offer a moral to this story, as in the famous <em>Fractured Fairy Tales</em>, it would be this:</p>
<p><em>Hold firm in bed.  Be flexible in business.</em></p>
<p>Know that I wish you the best.</p>
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		<title>By: Capybara</title>
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		<dc:creator>Capybara</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 06 Jan 2009 05:02:11 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>To reiterate some of the advice you&#039;ve heard:

It sounds like your main problem is that you may have sued the wrong entity - you probably should have sued the compnay not the owner.  However, you should be able to add the company (perhaps ask the clerk) or at least, file again if you lose at the next round.

You should take heart from the fact that you don&#039;t have to pay a lawyer, and so the suit may be worth it, and secondly, you are forcing him to pay a lawyer, probably for more than is at stake.  If you are so inclined, contact the lawyer and offer to settle for two thirds of what you are owed (remembering that even if you win, it may be difficult and/or expensive to actually collect on your judgment.)</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>To reiterate some of the advice you&#8217;ve heard:</p>
<p>It sounds like your main problem is that you may have sued the wrong entity &#8211; you probably should have sued the compnay not the owner.  However, you should be able to add the company (perhaps ask the clerk) or at least, file again if you lose at the next round.</p>
<p>You should take heart from the fact that you don&#8217;t have to pay a lawyer, and so the suit may be worth it, and secondly, you are forcing him to pay a lawyer, probably for more than is at stake.  If you are so inclined, contact the lawyer and offer to settle for two thirds of what you are owed (remembering that even if you win, it may be difficult and/or expensive to actually collect on your judgment.)</p>
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		<title>By: Heidi</title>
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		<dc:creator>Heidi</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 06 Jan 2009 03:19:34 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>In my state, litigants are not allowed to be represented by attorneys, so I&#039;m kind of thrown right there.

However, with all due respect to the real lawyers who are commenting, I would keep going with it on your own.  If the emails between you say what you read them to say, they should hold water.   Plus there seems to be a David v. Goliath vibe here that I can&#039;t help but think swings in your favor.

In my small claims case, I was fortunate that the judge allowed the defendant to speak first and loudest, and he talked himself right into a verdict against him.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In my state, litigants are not allowed to be represented by attorneys, so I&#8217;m kind of thrown right there.</p>
<p>However, with all due respect to the real lawyers who are commenting, I would keep going with it on your own.  If the emails between you say what you read them to say, they should hold water.   Plus there seems to be a David v. Goliath vibe here that I can&#8217;t help but think swings in your favor.</p>
<p>In my small claims case, I was fortunate that the judge allowed the defendant to speak first and loudest, and he talked himself right into a verdict against him.</p>
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