Comments on: Key

By: vignesh

vignesh — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 09:52:56 +0000

Touching..

By: Slow Learner

Slow Learner — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 08:04:13 +0000

They’re so very, very odd.

My Mum and I were never very close when I was younger, but we’ve grown closer as she’s grown older and more dependent. Now she’s in a nursing home, barely speaks and often seems distressed, and it pains me more than I could ever have expected to see her so reduced.

But the greater warmth that I now feel for her, and that brings me close to tears at times, is almost magical. I stroke her hand and kiss the top of her head as I leave her in a way that would never have thought possible even a couple of years ago.

But this is all because of her – she needs me more than ever. Your parents, however, need you less than ever because they want you only on their terms, and this is entirely unhealthy. So, why not oblige them and remove yourself as an irritant from their lives?

They’re so very, very odd.

By: badinfluencegirl

badinfluencegirl — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 14:21:32 +0000

funny my first response… the one i try not to use cause it gets me in trouble… says “send them back their note with a ps that says ‘as you wish’ and include their key in the envelope”

good luck anyway

By: Damian

Damian — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 10:10:43 +0000

They failed you long ago.
All that has happened since is simply a result of the original failure.

By: raschied

raschied — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 05:33:52 +0000

You are a more patient person than I’d ever be, AAG. I hope your recent communications are more productive than the ones you’ve had in the past. From what I’ve read in the past, your parents need to have the sticks removed from their asses. (bring pliers.) You are a gentlewoman and a saint for keeping the dialogue flowing – just be sure to stand up for yourself!!

**HUGS**

By: sulpicia

sulpicia — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 01:48:06 +0000

I had a terrible relationship with my parents for a very long time… but we managed to work it out. It took years and several years of absolutely no communication. But we made it. I’m so sorry your parents can’t just let you be you. I know it’s terribly trite to say this.. but it’s their loss. I know it means you lose something too…

Oh… I just read your comment about talking with them. GOOD. I am quite certain your excellent communication skills were key in that discussion. Best wishes for the next round of talks…

By: Griffyn

Griffyn — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 00:28:41 +0000

Words are entirely inadequate here. Instead, feel free to imagine we’re all here around you giving you the biggest possible group hug. Hugs solve everything!

By: Jackie

Jackie — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 00:22:21 +0000

I’m sorry for your pain, I know it must hurt. I’d be so proud to have you as my kid. And my mom too! You’re awesome.

By: marianne

marianne — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 23:42:31 +0000

For what it’s worth, I think you are being very strong and mature in all of this. I’m glad you’ve had a chance to talk with them since writing this.

By: co-ed

co-ed — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 22:05:08 +0000

Hi AAG

I’ve read your blog for a long time now. Your writing is always so sweet and touching, even when it’s sad. You have an amazing ability to reveal anough to make your readers empathize with you while never being trashy. I respect your writing and what you choose to write about so much.

Thanks for showing us that we can always change our lives if we work hard enough.

I’m done gushing.