Comments on: Sitter http://aagblog.com/2008/05/14/sitter/ ~ videamus quid sit exilium. nempe loci commutatio.~ Thu, 22 Dec 2011 14:33:19 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: T http://aagblog.com/2008/05/14/sitter/comment-page-1/#comment-11214 T Sat, 17 May 2008 19:31:12 +0000 http://aagblog.com/?p=726#comment-11214 I disagree w/most commenters. Unless you've discussed sex before, are emotionally close, or she has an easy going, laissez-faire personality, "accidently" slipping that in could weird her out. Baby stuff, baby stuff, baby stuff, sex book? I'd just be direct - if you think she'd be embarassed by receiving such an item, I'd drop it. She's certainly old enough to seek out that kind of material in private as there are tons of good online resources. A book that doesn't focus exclusively on sex but contains similar advice would be far more appropriate. I disagree w/most commenters. Unless you’ve discussed sex before, are emotionally close, or she has an easy going, laissez-faire personality, “accidently” slipping that in could weird her out. Baby stuff, baby stuff, baby stuff, sex book? I’d just be direct – if you think she’d be embarassed by receiving such an item, I’d drop it. She’s certainly old enough to seek out that kind of material in private as there are tons of good online resources. A book that doesn’t focus exclusively on sex but contains similar advice would be far more appropriate.

]]> By: urgh http://aagblog.com/2008/05/14/sitter/comment-page-1/#comment-11208 urgh Sat, 17 May 2008 07:54:13 +0000 http://aagblog.com/?p=726#comment-11208 Ding ding ding ding!! HUGE warning bells going off! No, the books you need to be passing along her are the divorce books and the ones about negotiating child support and visitation. She's going to need it. Ding ding ding ding!! HUGE warning bells going off!

No, the books you need to be passing along her are the divorce books and the ones about negotiating child support and visitation.

She’s going to need it.

]]> By: norby http://aagblog.com/2008/05/14/sitter/comment-page-1/#comment-11164 norby Wed, 14 May 2008 21:07:40 +0000 http://aagblog.com/?p=726#comment-11164 I say yes, give it to her. I would have loved for someone to give me a book like this, I may order it in the near future anyway. If you're going to be giving her other gifts there will be some way to discreetly give it to her if you're worried about embarrassing her. I say yes, give it to her. I would have loved for someone to give me a book like this, I may order it in the near future anyway. If you’re going to be giving her other gifts there will be some way to discreetly give it to her if you’re worried about embarrassing her.

]]> By: Mountain Girl http://aagblog.com/2008/05/14/sitter/comment-page-1/#comment-11163 Mountain Girl Wed, 14 May 2008 16:37:22 +0000 http://aagblog.com/?p=726#comment-11163 Where were you when I was babysitting? That book would have been treasured like gold. I remember as a high school senior sitting for the neighbors and poring over the mom's copy of The Joy of Sex. The kids found it under her bed and showed it to me (naked pictures! sshh!) It was fascinating and enlightening. Where were you when I was babysitting? That book would have been treasured like gold. I remember as a high school senior sitting for the neighbors and poring over the mom’s copy of The Joy of Sex. The kids found it under her bed and showed it to me (naked pictures! sshh!) It was fascinating and enlightening.

]]> By: ted http://aagblog.com/2008/05/14/sitter/comment-page-1/#comment-11162 ted Wed, 14 May 2008 15:02:36 +0000 http://aagblog.com/?p=726#comment-11162 Possibly, the father is a first time father and has no experience dealing with a woman going through all the hormone/mood/physical changes that pregnancy puts her through. From a males perspective is was very hard dealing with an extremely moody woman... The pay off was (a lot of) women turn into total sex maniacs too. An who doesn't love an enthusiastic partner? This book (which I flipped through at Spencer's Gifts) could be the thing that saves their relationship by turning the moody baby making machine into a sexual playground... or it could blow up in your face... They chained Prometheus to the side of a mountain near a temperamental eagle... Possibly, the father is a first time father and has no experience dealing with a woman going through all the hormone/mood/physical changes that pregnancy puts her through. From a males perspective is was very hard dealing with an extremely moody woman… The pay off was (a lot of) women turn into total sex maniacs too. An who doesn’t love an enthusiastic partner? This book (which I flipped through at Spencer’s Gifts) could be the thing that saves their relationship by turning the moody baby making machine into a sexual playground… or it could blow up in your face… They chained Prometheus to the side of a mountain near a temperamental eagle…

]]> By: the little sister http://aagblog.com/2008/05/14/sitter/comment-page-1/#comment-11161 the little sister Wed, 14 May 2008 14:38:16 +0000 http://aagblog.com/?p=726#comment-11161 I'd give it to her as well. Sounds like she'll be needing advice on many levels from an experienced mom so on par, she's lucky to have you as a resource for all manners of inquiry. All the Best to her:) I’d give it to her as well. Sounds like she’ll be needing advice on many levels from an experienced mom so on par, she’s lucky to have you as a resource for all manners of inquiry.

All the Best to her:)

]]> By: A http://aagblog.com/2008/05/14/sitter/comment-page-1/#comment-11159 A Wed, 14 May 2008 13:56:47 +0000 http://aagblog.com/?p=726#comment-11159 It's either appropriate, or delightfully inappropriate. I say go for it. It’s either appropriate, or delightfully inappropriate. I say go for it.

]]> By: nenasadije http://aagblog.com/2008/05/14/sitter/comment-page-1/#comment-11158 nenasadije Wed, 14 May 2008 13:47:45 +0000 http://aagblog.com/?p=726#comment-11158 oh, i feel kinda sad for this young woman. not having any of my own, i still understand that children, any way they come, are a blessing but she's got a long row to hoe. oh, i feel kinda sad for this young woman. not having any of my own, i still understand that children, any way they come, are a blessing but she’s got a long row to hoe.

]]> By: Tony Comstock http://aagblog.com/2008/05/14/sitter/comment-page-1/#comment-11157 Tony Comstock Wed, 14 May 2008 13:45:40 +0000 http://aagblog.com/?p=726#comment-11157 As you've noted in other posts, it's really not about the sex experience that either party has (or doesn't have.) It's about boundaries that are appropriate for a given relationship in a given time and place. Sexuality should be shared; never inflicted, even with the best of intentions. I'd be especially cautious about broaching sexuality with anyone in a subordiate relationship to me. As you’ve noted in other posts, it’s really not about the sex experience that either party has (or doesn’t have.) It’s about boundaries that are appropriate for a given relationship in a given time and place.

Sexuality should be shared; never inflicted, even with the best of intentions. I’d be especially cautious about broaching sexuality with anyone in a subordiate relationship to me.

]]> By: Finn http://aagblog.com/2008/05/14/sitter/comment-page-1/#comment-11156 Finn Wed, 14 May 2008 13:25:40 +0000 http://aagblog.com/?p=726#comment-11156 Oh hell yes! Get 'em started early. Oh hell yes! Get ‘em started early.

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