AlwaysArousedGirl

Ugh, you handled that more gracefully than I would have.

As someone who greatly enjoys both practices in question, I sometimes feel a little…awkward talking about fisting in particular.

There is such a lot of incorrect assumptions out there about it, even amongst the more open-minded.

As you said, she doesn’t know what she’s missing so I shall take what satisfaction I can from that, LOL.

So wait - she doesn’t use lube, she doesn’t like fisting, and she doesn’t partcipate in buttsex?

And she STILL had to get drunk to have sex?

Must be rough to be her… LOL

I feel for her boyfriend.
I mean, not to generalize or anything, but just from the impression of the impression that you got…

I’m so happy…i have a new blog to stalk

Being one of those chicks that does toy parties… it’s a particularly sad stereotype that I hear from a lot of women that lube is for people who are somehow “deficient”, and don’t produce enough of their own lubrication.

I try to educate when I do parties (in a fun way of course!), that lube is great for a ton of things! I mean, you can’t give a decent hand job without it!

Plus, slippy parts are happy parts… at least in my world!

One of my most disastrous sex dates was disastrous due to the absence of lube. Stupid me thought I’d postpone my period with the Pill, and that resulted in phenomenal dryness, and there was no shop nearby (open) that sold lube. It was one of those life lessons lol.

That woman may find herself in a similar pickle one day, no worries.

Ugh. What a bitch. I really hate when I come across that sort of attitude. I mean really, c’mon, grow up. Sometimes, lube is needed.

And I REALLY hate when people think that fisting and buttsex stretch you out. Fuck that shit. I have buttsex all the time, and I’m still tight like…things that are tight.

Being one of those women that does, “THOSE PARTIES!” You should see what I carry around for “dates.”

No lube? You’re doing it wrong.

LOL.

Sad,sad woman.

Although I must admit, I was once grossed out by buttsex and fisting.

But I was 15.

Aw, something just rubbed her the wrong way.

Sorry. I couldn’t resist.

Interesting that even at a play party there are uptight people. I learned something new today.

Damn…man do I ever wish you participated in HNT as those would be PHENOMENAL pic ideas! :D Even though they’re a little more than half-nekkid.

Wow.

I actually feel really bad for the ignorant bitch.

I mean, I’m still going to call her a mean name, but I feel kind of wretched for her.

Because when she gets older, and stops generating a sufficient amount of natural lubricant, her sex life is going to die off like that couple you mentioned in this post:

http://aagblog.com/2008/02/13/dry-vagina/

And that’s just sad, even if she is the kind of person who tries to establish her ’superiority’ at a play party by mocking the preparedness of other guests.

(If I’m at a play party, extra attraction points always go to the girls who are prepared).

Hopefully she’ll learn enough humility between now and menopause that she’ll find a way out of it. If she does, we should try not to lord it over her I suppose.

“Natural” lube is enough for oral sex.
For the girl.

I am just stunned at how supposed adults behave sometimes - esp at an adult party!!

You know what’s funny? When I was at a (non-sex) party last weekend I thought of you because I was talking about lube with someone and brought up how much extra fun it brings to the table, even if you usually do produce enough lube yourself.

eeeww! i didn’t like her - and i might have wept a little tear, at her blatant arrogance/ignorance.

i carry lube and a small vibrator in my handbag.

He he he. I nearly did a spit take on my screen. I really should carry some. I mean I carry loads of condoms with me (a girl can dream, can’t she?) and condoms without lube are ouchy, no matter how turned on you are. ;)

That was my last girlfriends excuse for not having buttsex. I haven’t even asked for it. It was more a preemptive strike, I think.
And yeah she was rather unadventurous, despite being a swinger. Which confused the hell out of me. Personally I think it was laziness. I’m the opposite. Lazy out side the bedroom, which is why we didn’t last. lol

Reminds me, need to pick up some more lube.

There is also “I think my bf is gay, because he want’s to try anal sex”.
That and the stretching excuse are just that, excuses not to try it and to stop bfs from asking for it.
It’s not just 20 year old women that say it, I’ve heard 40 year olds say the same thing.
If they don’t want to try it, that’s cool, but those excuses just shows a total immaturity about sex that puts us off.
Hell I have only ever come across one woman that was into fisting. (And she was the biggest anal fiend I’ve ever had). I’m not that worried if I never fist someone again.

Secret agents frequently find themselves in slippery situations

Sorry, got distracted and pressed the submit button to early. (or should I say prematurely).

I wouldn’t be concerned if future partners say they don’t want to do fisting or anal because it’s not their thing or it hurts.
But when they say it’s wrong because….. Then one wonders what else do they think is wrong and just how in to sex and exploring are they?
The last partner was a oddity. The most of the others have all tried anal. Some liked it, some not.
But they were adventurous and open enough to explore it. That’s all one asks for.
And yes I have let the ones that have asked, do the same to me. Doesn’t do anything for me, just makes me feel like I wanna go to the toilet. But I am happy to explore.

bottle of lube looks even more conspicuous in my wallet than the condom does…. Oh well… A guy has to do what a guy has to do, what other option do I have?

While I don’t carry lube around in my purse (lack of sex life = lack of need for lube on the go, generally speaking), well do I understand the need for lube - even when one is young, even when one usually produces enough natural stuff!

I mean, who hasn’t had a day when the desire is there but due to tiredness/medication/whatever the “natural lube” isn’t?

I think there are enough differences in the female body to provide a basis for all sorts of different veiws on lube and the need thereof. But really, courtesy doesn’t cost anything, and an open mind goes a long way to a happier, diverse life, imho.

I have lube in my purse, and in my glovebox. I also have some granola bars to give to any panhandlers in traffic, and jumper cables in the back seat. Those panhandlers may not need the food I have stockpiled, and my battery may be in perfectly good health, but a llittle preparedness never hurt.

Besides, I love asking my passengers to get me such and the other from the glovebox. Naturally, they find the lube. You would be amazed at the sorts of conversations that spring forth from this senario!

adding a bottle of lube to the glove box….

She’s ignorant. It’s not about whether you produce enough ‘natural lube’ or not. I produce plenty (at this point in my life, anyhow), but, as you and others have said, it’s awesome and vital for hand jobs, and anal sex, and absolutely necessary for fisting… and for just adding to the general gorgeous slipperiness of everything. What could be better than sliding around each other’s bodies like a waterpark ride?

This post was inspirational. Truly. And so I threw some lube and condoms in my purse on my way out to meet a potential FWB. It saved me from having to retrieve them from the bedroom as things started to heat up the second we fell inside the door.

By the by, I went on heavy acne drugs as a teen and haven’t been able to produce sufficient natural lube (except in moments of extreme x 10 arousal…like, say, last night…) since I was 16. If they sold the good stuff at Costco, I’d get it there…

. . . people are silly. I get wet enough to cause a fair amount of unfortunate slipping-out during PIV sex, but I still like having lube on hand in case of attempts at buttsex or fisting, or Sudden Massive Dryness.

This is the best non Poker blog that I’ve ever read! Keep up the good work.

Bah. Spoil sport. She is missing out like no body’s business.

I have lube, dams and condoms. It’s just what you gotta do.

This story makes me kind of sad.

Especially for her partner(s)…

Just found your blog tonight. And this was one of the first posts I read. Have to say I had quite a giggle concerning the “cheeky monkey” and her drunken proclamation.

No fisting for me. Yet. But butt sex? Ahhhhh!!!!!
Awesome.