Of course, replies written under such the blinding influence of bulbous, throbbing, bulging-veined cock don’t get any responses. But, as I said, the nice ones don’t either.

It’s all a numbers game, and, if you’re a guy, no matter how you play it, your choices are: lose, or lose. You pick.

And forget AFF, it’s crap. All I get on OKC for matches are bi women looking for… women!

Bah. Dating sites are teh suck. The free ones are useless, and the for-pay ones are more useless, and expensive too.

Things that impress me: mention of books, sense of humor, shared interests, and good grammar and spelling.

Things that do not impress me: inability to type a coherent sentence, a one sentence message, and a profile that is near empty.

I didn’t say I hadn’t had good success with OKC. I’ve had outstanding success with it. I just don’t intentionally use it as a hookup service.

Now, what I expect to happen and what occasionally (to my pleasant surprise) /does/ happen are very different things.

And I have noticed a large poly contingent there, which is nice, and many people that are open to the poly lifestyle (or having a fling with a poly partner), even if they themselves aren’t currently actively pursuing multiple relationships.

I experience the same thing as a sex worker, and so do all the other working girls I know. Gentlemen do not read our profiles, which say things like “only call me, I don’t read emails,” or “only email me, I don’t read PM’s.” You know, basic information like HOW TO CONTACT THE WOMAN WHO WILL VERY PROBABLY HAVE SEX WITH YOU.

I put in my profile that I only see people who can phrase a complete sentence, and I still get emails that read, in their entirety:

“[city name]?”

And then I read the long string of indignant posts from guys who can’t get a woman to see them, even for money…

It’s like a jolly little Disney cartoon image.

Except not.

I think some men grab onto the idea that if a woman provides any *hint* of sexuality that it means she either deserves or prefers to be talked to like (using the opposite of your example) a raging pussy who can type, rather than a well-rounded individual who *happens* to have a healthy attitude about sex.

Also, I can’t tell you the number of men I’ve met (both online and off) that rave about how much they like to please a woman sexually and how good they are at it. For some reason, the men I talk to tend to want to convince me in particular that they’re the One Man Who REALLY Likes Oral–No, Really, REALLY, *REALLY* Likes It Wink Wink. I’m not sure what that’s about, or why they’re proud or I’m supposed to be impressed that they LIKE something that they, IMHO, OUGHT to like. My general opinion of this is that the more they go on about it–the more they REALLY, REALLY NEED TO STRESS TO YOU (NO REALLY, I MEAN IT, TRUST ME), about how good they are–the less likely the claim is to be true and/or the more hangups/issues they have about sex.

I couldn’t help but want to comment because I too am a member of a well known pervy dating site. I have had a great time of it though, but have had to weed through my fair share of idiots, cavemen and other lower life forms. They don’t read…this makes me sad for many reasons, but they just don’t read and if they don’t read, they don’t write and if they don’t write, well then, I throw them back to the sea and wish them well and move on to some higher life forms. I don’t want to fuck a sea anemone any more than the next person, so I encourage us all to carry on and recognize and nurture higher life forms when we see them!

Again, glad to be back and glad to know that you were still here!