AlwaysArousedGirl

Have you thought about a futon? They last forever and can be put on the floor, propped into a couch, folded over, all sorts of fun things!

Whatever you decide to do… make sure you add in some really great bedding!

I had a futon for awhile, though, and it was ridiculously uncomfortable. Besides, it rattled too much during sex, too. I never liked the instability factor. Now that I’ve got a proper bed (which set me back $700, agh!), no more futons.

They’re the realm of poor college students, of which I am one, but I opted to starve a bit so as to sleep better at night.

Get a gooood bed. Good sleep (in your own comfy bed) is a must for good sex (which can mostly happen anywhere).

When I was shopping for furniture, I was blown away by how much furniture depreciates. I bought a mission style bed that would have run me $1200 for $175 on Craigslist. I would seriously suggest shopping for your bedframe there. Then you can blow your wad (heh) on a great mattress set. If you don’t care if the box-springs matches the mattress, you might be able to get an odd box-springs for cheaper at the mattress store.

I have a loverly headboard I made myself that is basically a sheet of plywood covered in 4″ foam (which makes for VERY nice padding during a good fucking), a sheet staple-gunned over that, and a couple of 2×4’s bolted it the back of the plywood and then to the metal bedframe. Works perfectly!

(I can send you more specific directions, if needed!)

You might want to stop storing your dimes in the sofa and put them in a piggy bank (they’re easier to retrieve). Unless of course you have a pick- pocketing monster living in the cushions who swipes other peoples’ dimes. :-)

I voted for the good mattress–the good back support, not worrying about the bed falling apart around you during sex, the good endorphins from said sex, and all of us getting to hear about said sex: it’s a no-brainer.

Happy shopping!

Happy shopping!

Oh, right…and it’s well worth it to invest in a good quality mattress, for your back and fucking purposes. I recommend pillow tops highly! :)

You spend how many hours of your life in it and you’ll get a good 10 years out of it. Pennies per night. Really.

A good mattress will HELP with your back. ;o)

While I favor the quality mattress and no bedframe, the concern I would have is of what what to tie somebody to (or be tied to). In the past I’ve opted for a good mattress and a platform bed because then one does not need a box spring, and it provides serious tiedowns.

The other option is to forget the headboard and put eyebolts in the wall studs, but MAN! It is embarassing when the frameless mattress and box spring goes squeaking across the floor and someone is left tied to the wall looking down into a 3-foot gap between the end of the bed and teh wall or, worse yet, with their head hanging into it.

I got my big girl bed last fall and I am loving my padded headboard like none other. Of course, mommy and daddy made my bed, so I really don’t have experience in buying beds.

But that slave bed looks like a very special thing. Of course, it eliminates some positions, but…SLAVE BED!

Just make sure your funky artsy thing is water-and-other-liquids-proofed. And perhaps secured against vigorous movement.

Good mattress set is key, for back health and a good night’s sleep. They usually come with a bed frame, right? So no worries as far as sturdiness. A headboard/footboard is aesthetic, less important, and can be purchased later.

Have you tried a memory foam mattress? A bit hard to fuck on at first but god are they comfortable!

a good mattress is the only correct answer here. what good is a funky headboard if a spring is digging into your tailbone?
i highly recommend you try a memory foam mattress, tempurpedic or orthopedic. amazing stuff, no pressure points, you’ll sleep like a baby after all that yummy fucking you get to do.
the headboard and/or frame can come later.

Have you ever thougt of IKEA ? I know it sounds like “Omg i am in college again” but they make really good beds actually and they are quite cheap if you dont want something extra fancy.

And get a decent mattress on top of it … got my latex one two weeks ago and i am sleeping so much better than a baby ever could now :)

The most expensive thing I own (other than my currently mangled car) is my queen sized bed set. Euro pillowtop mattress, boxspring and frame. Plus $50 extra for a split boxspring so I can move it more easily, and a waterproof mattress pad so that the wet spot and lube and other bodily fluids don’t sink through.

All together, it was $850…more than a month’s rent. However, my back and neck have hurt way less, I love fucking in it, I love typing in it, sleeping in it, cuddling with kitties in it. It is the best investment I’ve made in my life, and it’ll stick with me for at least a decade…and even if I have to replace the mattress, I’ll still have the box spring and frame.

Because think about it; if it lasts only 10 years (and it should last more), it’s 85 dollars a year. That’s 85 towards less chiro appts, towards less mattress stains, towards less back pain.

We spend at least 30% of our lives in bed…way less than that in a car, yet we buy super safe protective cars. Protect your body, buy the bed.

*steps off of soap box*

also, to address the concern mentioned above, my $40 under the bed restraints have done me quite well :)

I can highly recommend memory foam too, they’re lovely. Ours is a Super King, not sure what you’ll call them? It’s 6ft wide and 6ft 2″ long, I love to have my ‘own’ space while sleeping!

I was a furniture sales person once upon a time, and I have to say… the money is in the mattress. The more you can spend on it, the better it will be. I guess that’s like a lot of things. If you can get a second hand bed frame, it’s always a good deal. Pay attention to brand names… anything bought at Ashley won’t last very long, for instance.
I’m currently using under bed restraints ’cause I blew my cash on a mattress. hehe

Mattress, for sure! A good mattress is not only great for fucking, but for a good night’s sleep - it just can’t be beat. You can also do a lot with a nice bed-in-a-bag, adult style. We got a lovely bed in a bag 50% off - AND we now have 800 thread count sheets. Think comfort, then style :D Happy hunting!

Last summer we had to retire our worn out matrress. I had a massively bad time with my back, and so did the wife. We shopped around at many different placed for mattresses. We weren’t sure what we needed, soft , firm, extra firm, granite, and you *can’t* tell anything about how a bed feels by laying on it for 15 minutes. Memory foam would have been nice, but there was no way to guarantee that I wouldn’t wake up with a crick in my back at 5 am like before. So we decided that the only way to insure that we wouldn’t be wasting our money, was to get one of those Sleep Number beds. It is expensive and probably out of your price range, but, it just made the most logical sense to us. If we bought a bed with a single firmness for $850, and after 2 weeks, we still had back problems, then it would have been a gigantic waste of money and we’d still be searching for the right one and having to send that much money yet again, which makes up for the cost of the SN bed. Now we can adjust the firmness any way we want. We’ve had it for 9 months, and I have to say it has been one of the best purchases we ever made. Oh and By the way, it’s awesome for fucking, when you wanna fuck, just increase the firmness, then when you want to sleep, crank it back down. And it’s durable with a 25 year warranty. My kids use it as a trampoline, so it’s *really* durable.

As far as a bed frame, for the time being just pick up one of those cheap fold out metal frames, we had many good years out of one. Spring for the good mattress, then save your couch money later for a fancy frame.

Go with quality for the mattress and thrift store for the headboard. Your body, wether fucking or not, needs a good mattress. Shit is always going to happen, prepared or not. Forget worrying about roofs and furnaces - take care of what’s most important right now - YOU!

I’m in the quality mattress group. You can make your own funky headboard thing, and then when you want to change it, you can. Rotating funky headboards!

we spent a grand on our boxspring and mattress and just put it on top of our old metal frame. no head board. we also put a memory foam topper on top….it is so comfy…for all bed related activities.
we’d both been having back issues, but not anymore…get a good bed!!
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I have to add my voice to the vote (and I did vote) for the best mattress/box spring you can buy with the sturdy metal frame. the sleep and comfort factor is WAY more important than the pretty factor and the pretty factor can definitely be added later. And if you are handy or know someone who is, and crafty, you could actually make an awesome headboard. I have a friend who made an exquisite padded headboard with beautiful fabric and it didn’t cost anything near what a professional one would have, plus it was unique.

I’m firmly in the mattress camp. A good bed is essential for good sleep which is essential for good health which is essential for mind-blowing sex. Besides the fact that once you purchase said bed you’ll see another one that you love even more.

I don’t know what your budget is, but I recently purchased a Temperpedic and I LOVE it. They come in a range of prices and are soooo comfortable. But a good quality pillowtop can be very comfortable too.

““Built like a tank” must be furniture-guy speak for “fuckproof.””

I laughed my oversized ass off at this. And i voted above — it seems like i’m in the cool kids camp.

kisses
J x

I would drop the cash on a good matress set. You can get a good Tempurpedic for around 800 around here I have seen em go for 600, now granted thats a full size bed, so if you wanted a queen it goes up. No matter what you choose the headboard can always be added later.

My ex and I had a tempurpedic mattress set-I miss that bed more than him. It is very comfortable to sleep (and fuck) on. You can also get pretty inexpensive frames to fit around it.

On a side note, did you know you can get Tempurpedic mattresses that are adjustable and vibrate?

If you can’t afford that, I personally suggest the reasonably priced, good mattress set with a solid frame option. You can always replace the mattress again in the future when you need to, but a bed frame tends to be a much longer investment.

Quit practicing your neuroses on the blasted bed and just buy one. And then fuck in it. And then write about it! We want to hear about the fucking, not the angst!

A high-quality mattress and box spring should be the first priorities. That’s what gets you a good night’s sleep.

You don’t even need a bed, really. The mattress and box spring on the floor will be very stable. Just cover the box spring with a nice fitted sheet. Not the most elegant arrangement, but very practical. Did it myself for years and slept like a log.

Avoid the metal screen you linked to. Too flimsy for tie-downs. By the time you’ve worn out the high-quality mattress, you’ll be able to afford another one.

A lot of people like Tempurpedics, but I recommend you sleep on one a few nights before you buy one. Either you love them, or you can’t get comfortable on them, depending on your preferred sleeping position. When my SO moved in, he brought the Tempurpedic set he loved, and I gave away my waterbed. After a month, I gave up trying to sleep on the Tempurpedic and let him have it - I went back to sleeping on my futon.

BTW, futon technology has come a long way since college. They’re now sturdy enough to fuck on, and the bits of wood that are arms when it’s in couch form make nice tiedown points. Mine even has a real mattress. I got a middle-of-the-road mattress, but they had some very nice ones available, complete with real springs.

I built a variant of this and it’s eminently fuckproof.

I cannot stress enough how important it is to have a good mattress.

We spent k’s on an excellent latex mattress. It took a year and a half to get a bed to go with it.

SO. VERY. WORTH IT.

Don’t get a memory foam mattress. I sleep on a tempurpedic, it’s comfortable for sleeping but it is miserable to fuck on. (which explains why the covers in the guest bedroom are always in disarray!)

A friend arc-welded my steel bedframe and that permanently stopped the squeek-squeekies. Of course. it is a bit of a hassle to move now.

AAG,
You have to go with the best mattress.
Of course it’s easy for me to say, as my wife and I own a Mattress store.
Come out to visit, and I’ll make your trip worthwhile. Maybe you can show the wife a trick or 2, and we could make a deal. We’ve got lots of places to demonstrate the proper use and function of a mattress.

Dear AAG,

I don’t care for the foam mattresses—I like the way they feel but they make me hot (not in the good way).

These are the kinds of decisions that can stop me in my tracks. My line to myself is “this is not the only thus-and-such you’ll ever decide on in your life; if you pick one and don’t like it, you can fix the situation.” Works for furniture, partners, homes, shoes, etc.

Good luck!

I’d like to second Eveready’s suggestion of a Select Comfort “Sleep Number” bed.

All foam and innerspring mattresses will wear out eventually; the inflatable Sleep Number bed will remain as firm - or as soft - as I want it to be. Dial the number down to 30 to sink into it, hammock-like; pump it up to 100 to have it push you up into unyielding firmness. My wife gets a kick out of riding the bed up and down as we make love, and when she just wants to be viciously fucked, she can kneel on the edge of the bed and not sink in.

We’ve had ours for about 6 years now, and it is still as comfortable as it was the day it was new.

Obvious hazards; knives or big dogs. (We have cats, and the pillow-top is WAY to thick for cat claws to pierce it.) It doesn’t breathe - even with the pillow top, it retains body heat almost too well. For midwestern winters, perhaps that’s also a benefit.

Benefits: You can unzip the pillow top and wash it if watersports or childish accidents are a factor. You’d want to use the BIG washer for that, or hose it down and let it air-dry if the weather is nice. I would recommend a waterproof cover in any event; it takes a while to dry out.

If your purchase isn’t in the immediate future (sounds, though, like it is) you can get on their mailing list and they occasionally have “discontinued model” sales at about 30% off. That’s how we bought ours.

May you enjoy your new bed, and make many wonderful memories in it!

Get a good mattress. Don’t feel bad about spending the money, first off you deserve and need it, secondly, if you squirrel the money away I always find it gets spent on other stuff and then it is just gone.

Don’t worry about the actual bed part, we are still sleeping on the box spring and mattress with a simple iron frame or whatever. I say the money is best spent in a good mattress, you can get the other stuff later. But if you go cheep on the mattress you will just have to start all over again when it is time to get a good one.

A good mattress is key. Even placed on the floor, a good mattress is better for your health and your fucking than a mediocre mattress with a bed frame.

Most stores will provide you with an okay metal bed frame included in the cost of a matress and box spring. You can use that until you can afford a better bed frame.

I’d also suggest as an alternative a mattress (no box spring) with a platform bed. Platform beds are sexy, sturdy, and can be cheaper than a big bed frame with headboard.

I highly, HIGHLY recommend a pillow top, posturepedic mattress. I bought one 8 years ago and I’ve never been sorry. Best bed I have EVER slept in; and great for sex, too. Stays solid, doesn’t bounce or creak. Holds up even to some really hard pounding–and is soft on the knees when one is on them getting or giving that hard pounding. At the time I bought it, it was the most expensive thing I owned and it was worth every penny of the investment. Still comfortable to this day.

Go for the good mattress. And check the bargain basement at the big furniture stores near you! And check Craigslist -there’s a fair number of new mattresses on there.

For the frame/headboard - same sources. We got a slightly - very slightly, I can’t even remember where the ding was - dinged up headboard, footboard and frame for $200, originally $700.

Enjoy!

No foot board, the bottom corner of the mattress is very useful. Many beds do not need a box spring anymore unless you want the height. Simmons mattresses are good for bounce isolation. The ability to roll over without waking the person next to you is highly under rated. Good matresses cost a bit but this is one purchase you don’t want to cheap out on it’s really hard to admit you don’t like your mattress a couple of years down the road and part with even more hard earned cash to rectify the situation

I vote for the good mattress and your very lovely flower photos oversized overtop.

As others have said, a mattress is one of the best ivestments you make. You’ve heard my rant about the chronically sleep-deprived Americans and I think not paying attention to what you sleep on is a part of the problem.

N.

You gotta check out http://www.eq3.com
Their beds are fuck proof, really beautiful and decently priced. Worth looking at anyways.

Yeah definitely go for a solid bed. I have a cheap metal frame slat one. (Yes I choose the metal frame for obvious reasons.)
But it’s past it’s best. I makes the worst racket during sex. Sounds like it’s going to fall apart.
In fact it felt like it did, during one rather rigorous session. (A couple of slats just slipped out).
I am so scared that it will, that when ever I have an fb over these days I take the mattress out into the living room and we do it there. (One of the good things about not having flatmates.)
One day when I have spare thousand or so (Furniture is expensive in NZ) I will get a decent one.