2nd Apr, 2008

Lex Talionis*

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When her story first began to spread, I cautioned against letting our thoughts run to revenge. But after a few days of contemplation, I found my mind spinning scenarios of painful, humiliating retribution.

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It’d be best to let a few months pass. If the primaries could bring themselves to affect some degree of fraudulent forgiveness, so much the better. The idea would be that he’d think that things had gone back to normal. That he’d been pardoned. That he’d no longer need to sleep with one ear trained toward the door, nor a gun beneath his pillow.

In the small dark hours of the morning, a crew of four or five would pay this charmer a visit, bearing with us a few key instruments designed to elicit submission.

In fantasy the details blur; rationally I can see ten-thousand impediments to how we’d arrive, enter and subdue. But this is a fantasy. The particulars are unimportant; the next bit, however, is utterly clear.

We’d place him naked, face up and bound to the bed. His ankles would be spread wide and roped to his wrists. Would a blindfold be employed? Oh yes. It would make the anticipation worse. A ball gag wouldn’t be a bad idea either.

To his almost certain surprise, things would begin pleasurably, or at least as pleasurably as could be expected for someone woken in the night by a crowd of grim strangers. Someone would take our mark’s cock in hand, lube it liberally with the best possible lube, and stroke it. From what I hear it’s a big one, both in length and girth.

Few men could resist insistent lubed strokes. It wouldn’t be long, I’d imagine, ’til his cock plumped up hard and straight. I possess some small talent in the area of dirty talk; I’d be perfectly willing to help sketch out a raw, filthy picture in his head.

“You want to get fucked, don’t you, baby?” I’d whisper to him roughly as the pleasure in his cock grew. “You want to slide that big dick in me and feel how wet I am?”

At this point, our victim would wonder if perhaps he hadn’t been mistaken in his interpretation of events. Maybe his pals had set this up, he’d think. What could go wrong with relaxing into the sensations, the pleasure, the release?

“Baby I’m dying to fuck you,” I’d moan into his ear, envisioning a corresponding jump in his cock’s hardness at the words. “I’m dying to get your cock in me — and even more, I’m dying to get my cock in you. You’d like to have my big fat cock, wouldn’t you?”

Would his head swivel back and forth on the bed? Would he try to voice “No!” around the ball in his mouth? I hope he would. The more he protested, the more I’d tell him how he was going to love having a thick cock in his ass.

The other members of our avenging posse would not have been idle thorough this. Busy hands would have drawn forth a dildo of almost otherworldly proportions, the kind of toy meant for those with years’ worth of anal experience. After much consideration, we would have chosen a toy made from rubber because of its high potential for drag.

My companions would add just the tiniest dot of water-based lube to the dong, which would accurately replicate the consideration he’d given her, slamming it into her with no more lube that what came from her vagina. They’d nudge it against his asshole, then over his frantic protests they’d drive it home.

All of it. Deep into his ass, the lube instantly vaporized by friction and fear.

Then they’d pull it out and slam it back in again, and again, and again, balls deep each time, just as he’d done to her.

The hand on his cock and the voice in his ear would stop when the ass-rape started. They’d served their purpose, and while some might think that retribution should be delivered with him wholly unaroused, the pleasure is actually an integral component of my plan.

Because after we’d left (again, those details are but a muddy haze), after he’d uncurled from the fetal position, after he’d wiped the sad froth of shit, lube and blood from his ass, I’d want him to remember with shame the feeling of having enjoyed himself right up to the moment that things went wrong. I’d want him to wonder — just as she does — if he’d done something to encourage the attack.

I’d want to link together in his mind the concepts of revulsion and arousal, so that every time he became excited, he’d feel fear. Each orgasm would be dragged down by the certain memory of shame, rage, and pain. He might come to dread engaging sexually because hooked to it would be an anchor of nearly intolerable emotions.

The flow of blood would end after a few days. Sitting would hurt. Pooping? Aye, yes, that would be difficult. He’d wonder whether or not he should see a doctor. What would he say? How would he explain his injuries? What trouble could come from it?

I want him to feel the discomfort she’s felt in the days after her assault, but the true power of this revenge fantasy would come in the weeks, months and years to follow. He’d then discover that having your “No!” ignored — even once, even for just a few moments — hurts in ways that don’t disappear when the body heals.

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I find this plan creeping into my thoughts a thousand times a day. Of course I’ll do nothing. This scenario won’t see reality, and I’ll encourage others also to keep their plans in the realm of fantasy.

But…how good it would feel to make it happen. How satisfying. How perfect.

How just.

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*Lex Talionis

Responses

aw geeze

i want to hug her

I’ve had two lovers whose first experiences were a form of rape.

There is a conscious choice we make, as members of a civilized and free society, not to take such matters lightly, or to take them into our own hands.

But it is a conscious choice I have to make almost every day anew, when I think of the stories I have heard, and the ones I know I will hear one day.

I’ve more than once experienced this train of thought, though perhaps not with as much detail; a good friend of mine was raped (”date” raped) some years ago and it’s never quite felt like justice was really served; the guy was prosecuted but received what basically amounted to a slap on the wrist as punishment.

I’ve had that urge, much as I know I will never act on it, on her behalf and on the behalf of other friends.

Wow. If those are the types of schemes that your mind hatches when you feel like you’ve been crossed in some way (be it you personally, or just a friend), I hate to think what you’d dream up when someone actually crosses you on purpose.

Maybe the fact that it happened to someone else makes it easier to think along these lines. –aag

I’m a huge fan of this sort of fantasy revenge. It’s immensely satisfying to dwell on the detail and revel in the forcible correction of wrongdoing. And the best thing is that it helps you to remain sweetly calm in everyday life.

There’s a line in King Lear that sums this up nicely - ‘I will do such things,– What they are, yet I know not: but they shall be the terrors of the earth’.

Done correctly fantasy revenge is an excellent de-stressing tool :o)

I’m sorry for being unaware of current events, for so this apparently is, but about whom are you revenge-fantasizing?

Sorry to disappoint, but this is about all I’m ready to say right now. –aag

“‘Vengenence is mine,’ sayeth the Lord, ‘if there is anything left after AAG gets done with the sorry bastard.’”

Amen.

Samantha, how did someone *not* cross AAG’s friend “on purpose”?

Sounds just to me. The revenge I’d take for my loved ones is always harsher than the revenge I’d take for myself.

I’m not sure I’m down with all raping the rapist nonsense. Two wrongs may not make a right

But I know in my experience that these people are the reason we have baseball bats. And that the constant fear of being beaten to within 9/10th of your life is enough to make some people disappear. Maybe it’s just because as it’s happening they have no idea why, and its left to them to think about all the people they have hurt who may want to hurt them.

I love the way your mind works. Bastard.

Michael: In reality? No. In one’s head, why not? I’m entirely against the death penalty, but if someone murdered someone I loved I’m sure I’d fantasize about killing the murderer while still thinking the death penalty is wrong.

I’m sure it’s not true for everyone, but for some fantasizing about revenge is very therapeutic. Writing it out is even better.

aag, explanation of the *why* for the fantasy, at the end is just poetic. The writing, I mean. It wows. It should be required reading for… I don’t know who… someone.

Sounds like excellent revenge to me, aag. I’d volunteer to help see the process through.

“An ass for an ass ….”

So very close to my heart. I understand your anger, your thirst to put things right, to regain the equilibrium.

I was a little less forgiving, my fantasy revenge never involved sex, it just snuffed them out.

However, I am a great believer in Karma. One day he will reap that which he so wickedly sewed and you won’t even have to lift a finger.

My thoughts are with you and your friend, I hope you both find a safe path through this darkness xx

That’s a delicious revenge fantasy for a cowardly and brutal violation of your friend’s sexual, physical and emotional integrity.

In fact, your fantasy, so eloquently told, is probably too good for the perpetrator.

Revenge is sweet, dreaming it up is sweeter. Like the above commenter, I’m confident Karma will give him an excellent seeing to when the time is right.

I’m a relatively new reader of yours, and I deeply love this blog. But as an emergency room advocate for survivors of sexual assault and intimate partner violence, and as someone who has many friends and loved ones who are survivors, I found this posting not satisfying but incredibly disturbing. I completely understand the need to fantasize about revenge, but to take pleasure in the idea of raping a rapist helps no one–not the survivors and not ourselves. I’m sure many would disagree with me, but I believe that no one deserves to be raped, not even rapists, and I agree with the person who said that this man’s karma will be worse than any revenge fantasy any of us could concoct.

Revenge is sweet, but healing is sweeter, and I hope that this deeply upsetting post serves some purpose by helping both you and friend begin to heal.

It’s supposed to be disturbing. Rape is disturbing. And yes, I feel much better to have that out of me. :) –aag

Hmmm …

I once had a loved one recount a tale not entirely dissimilar to the one that your friend told, if not (fortunately) so extreme.

My thoughts were much simpler involving, yes, a dildo … but barbed wire featured heavily. Again, it’s not something I would ever have gone through with but it’s hard not to ponder the possibilities. I clearly don’t have your imagination though!

It’s a pretty ingenious revenge fantasy. What would make the revenge more perfect, however, would be to give the fucker rapist a heart and conscience first — something he clearly lacks right now — so that he can experience the full injury, both physical and psychic, of being raped.

Much love to your friend.

P.S.: XXX (name removed by aag) is a stupid twat. How annoying to be inflicted by stupid comments on top of the stress of having a friend be hurt. Rape is, like, an extreme act which, like, engenders extreme reactions in people.

P.P.S: Did I break any house rules with my twat-calling? If so, feel free to edit my comment.

To Mabel: I wasn’t implying that whatever was done to AAG’s friend wasn’t crossing AAG herself, but more along the lines of “I’m doing this to YOU (AAG) specifically, not to friend-of-AAG that will also affect other friends”.

My comment wasn’t meant to offend, so if it did, I apologize.

Samantha, I’m sorry, I’m in the middle of learning about rape law in school right now so I was looking for a fight this morning. I get what you’re saying.

I am very, very sorry to hear about your friend. My heart goes out to her. I hope she–and you–are doing okay.

Hmmm, on a bit of a relevant tangent, i learned recently that thoughts of revenge and thoughts of chocolate cake light up activity in the same parts of the brain. Seems that a justice high and a sugar high are pretty much the same thing….

Sweet, satisfying thoughts indeed.

Im looking for a link we dont have to subscribe to and will post it if i can find it.

Though justice be thy plea, consider this,
That, in the course of justice, none of us
Should see salvation: we do pray for mercy;
And that same prayer doth teach us all to render
The deeds of mercy.

from The Merchant of Venice by William Shakespeare

With all due respect, aag, it would not be just. It would be revenge. No human being deserves to be violated even if he or she did the same to another. You will not end the violence this way. You will only perpetuate it. There may be little you can offer your friend in the way of comfort, but I do not know if she will be comforted by this.

I applaud you for demonstrating in your post how easily a yes, even an enthusiastic yes, can become a horror-filled no. But at the end of your post, I do not hear the balancing of the scales of justice, or an echo of no. Only a deadly silence.

I know, Kochanie. That’s why these thoughts are ultimately unsatisfying, and but one of the reasons why I’d neither participate nor condone the carrying out of this type of “justice.”

:)

This is why I think sex offenders should be castrated… see how many other ass-hats are willing to commit acts of such atrocity with that looming in the balance.

Harsh? yes…

Deservedly so in my book…

Sigh.

But you forget that sexual assaults can be committed with other things besides working penises.

Fingers. Dildos. Broomsticks. Guns. Bottles. Etc.

“But you forget that sexual assaults can be committed with other things besides working penises.”

Yup. Former presidential primary candidate Mike Huckabee got in hot water for having pardoned a supporter who’d been castrated while awaiting trial for rape. Soon after the guy raped *and murdered* someone else. So yeah, popular notions notwithstanding rape isn’t about penises.

My issue with rape-the-rapist scenarios is that, besides condoning rape as conformity-and-social-control mechanism, such scenarios reward all but the first rapist.

Also, wow, cool template, AAG! Teach me just to read you via RSS!

figleaf

Jesus fuck! Who is this about? What primaries? Is ther e a rapist running for Preznit and I haven’t seen this in the news somehow?

Your fantasy would probably not damage the guy any more than he already was.

I’ve seen studies showing that a huge percentage of sex offenders were themselves victims of childhood sexual abuse. Much greater percentage than the general population, a statistically significant difference. If that’s true, then sexual violence is like a virus that gets spread from predator to victim, turning them into predators, like a vampire bite creating more vampires. What’s sad is that it appears to have happened to you now too.

Again, if that’s the case, then the karma works in reverse here. This rapist you feel so vindictive towards, is very probably himself a victim of a rape, and has already endured the pain and humiliation you have mapped out for him with such sick and twisted detail. It’s also very likely he endured it as a small child, so doing it to him as an adult would be nothing to him compared to the trauma he experienced and which damaged his sexuality for life.

You seem to be taking vindictive delight fantasizing about connecting sexual pleasure with violence in yet another human being. I think that’s wrong. Moreover, if the studies I’ve seen are correct, it would be pointless since that’s already been done to him, and is what made him such a monster in the first place.

A vicious cycle that perpetuates itself. Perhaps try running that in reverse? Would that save someone’s life? Would it save another person from being violated?

I’m late to this posting but I’m commenting anyway (because I’m working through your site backwards). And revenge is a tricky thing. Not that have the slightest problem whatsoever with how much I crave it at times. God knows I try to be loving and, you know, other-cheek-turning. It’s just that it doesn’t always work and doesn’t assuage the anger.

Which is why I had a saying on my wall for years . . .
Two wrongs don’t make a right–they make it even.

Maybe it’s just me thinking that after some wrongs there can be no right.

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