aag

And think of all the great adventures you’ll have on it.

Sigh.

Hey, they let me back in! w00t!

well, i think thats just wrong on a few different levels. You are too stubborn. You could be messing your back up permanently just to buy your own bed, which for all your planning might not turn out to be as important as you think buying it yourself really is.
Sweetie, its probably ruining your sleep which means you’ll age faster than you want to…..
At least get one of those space age foam mattresses, they’re less than a hundred bucks!

wow, i can so relate to your train of thought. I too went through a painful divorce and refused to let on to my parents just how broke, broken and sad i was. It makes no sense but, i know exactly what you mean about the bed. I say hold out for something grand and symbolic, that’s what chiro’s are for.

And… I just purchased last week a FAB desk for my new office and it was a big deal for me, i cried! it is mine all mine and doesn’t have a damn thing to do with him. yahoo!

Choose a pillowtop bed, trust me., they are better on your knees. And also for burying your face in while screaming out your, well… happiness a a new mattress

*giggling*

Thanks, Newbwriter.

:)

honey listen to the pilates instructor.

some things are for being proud of yourself and sticking to your guns and standing proud in your accomplishments.

some things are for your back.

get the damn bed.

the cuffs? the cool headboard with the convenient tie down points? the hooks under the frame for ropes? all for you.

the bed? for your back.

please, let your parents help… choose another symbol i beg you.

Wow.

I had no idea this would prompt the sharing of such strongly-held opinions!

:)

Perhaps you could let your parents pay for the mattress & box spring? The bed itself you can pick out and purchase when you have the $$. At least that way you can get a decent night’s sleep.

My current mattress is by a company called Englander. They make foam mattresses but they look like regular innerspring mattresses. VERY comfy. Look into them if you can. They don’t advertise, which is why you’ve never heard of them, but that also keeps their prices reasonable.

Good luck with this.

when my insurance company settled (poorly, silly me) with me after they got tired of paying off my car accident i spend over a third of the settlement on the bed i am now lying on.

my back thanks me every night.

the bags that are half as deep under my eyes thank me every morning.

:)

i like zoe’s idea… mattress from the folks, bed frame later :)

I second the pillow-top suggestion. I have one. It’s…useful. :)

And very, very comfortable.

I know what you mean, too. A bed is an extremely personal purchase. The one I have now is the first one I ever bought entirely on my own and there was something amazing about picking it just to please me and no one else. And 8 years later, it’s still the most comfortable, most wonderful bed I’ve ever owned. I’m sure the psychology plays into that a lot, too.

You know….y’all could get together and BUY me a bed. That’d be cool.

:)

I feel so strongly about my bed, I just have to weigh in on this one. I have a water bed. Before you picture sleeping on the waves of the ocean and bow-chicka-bow-wow music, let me explain. When I went to the mattress store to pick out a new bed, (my 60 pound dog didn’t fit in the twin and she was sure as sh*t not going to sleep on the floor) I was looking for a traditional mattress, maybe something with a pillow top. What I found was this extraordinarily comfortable bed that bears no resemblance to anything from the seventies. It looks exactly like a regular mattress, it has a frame that looks like a box spring which is in turn supported by another, easy to assemble frame that rests on the floor. Here’s the best part - inside the waterbed pouch is a big cushy blanket (you have to purchase the extra firm). It’s this blanket that makes the bed soft and cloudlike, and not sloppy and wavy. I’ve never had better sleep, and my sleepover companions have always talked about what amazing sleep they’ve gotten. When I let them sleep, that is ;). Also, it’s only ever enhanced play-time, no falling off the bed or awkwardness because of the water.

If I donate towards your bed, will you send me the next glass toy up for grabs?

:)

Sorry for double-posting, but I third the pillowtop. Although the boy thinks it’s too soft for comfortable sleep.

I agree - its nice to buy your own stuff, but don’t refuse a gift at the expense of your back.

It’s understandable to have your bed, your sacred place where you sleep, fool around, play, lounge, whatever… it is understandable to want it to be all your own, and picked out to perfectly fit YOU, because it is uniquely your own place.

Two words - Super King,

There is something about not mattering what direction you fuck in!

I badly want to throw out “our” bed, now that I sleep in it alone. I’ve covered up her half with junk, but it still sucks. I was never a big Police fan, but the bed really IS too big without her.

My first thought was that you should tell your parents, “I will buy my own fucking bed!” (said with firmness, but not anger.) as you chuckle under your breath.

But as I read the other comments:

1) I have to agree, the health of your back is really, really important.

2) I like the “parents buy the mattress, you buy the bedframe” concept.

When I first read this entry, I thought ‘Aww thats kinda cool, a new bed could symbolize how far she’s come since her marriage, and represent a sign of her independence and her ability to control her own life!”

Then reading over some of the comments brought the thought of your physical health to mind, which hadn’t thought of at first - but trust me (and everyone else) that a crappy old worn-out mattress wreaks havoc on your back.

I know.

I know all too well from weekends sleeping on my boyfriends prehistoric bed and then coming home to my soft new bed. Get a new bed as soon as you can and your spine will thank you!

-SaS

Given the choice between a tainted symbol and a good night’s sleep, I’d take the good night’s sleep. Proper rest will make all your days easier to deal with. My crazy, expensive, queen-sized, pillow-top bed was the best purchase I ever made. (an no, I couldn’t afford it. it was still worth it.)

A couple of years ago a Londoner called Geoff put out an appeal on his website. He really wanted an iPod but couldn’t afford one - at the time they retailed at £250 ($500) in the UK.

So, he asked his readers to each donate 50p ($1) to help him raise the money. It took him seven months to reach his target. You can read all about it at: http://www.geofftech.co.uk/50pence/

So, AAG, what about asking your readers to each donate a dollar to your worthy project of buying a bed entirely suited to your post-marriage life? All you’d have to do is put a photo of it on your blog :o)

Go on - I’d certainly chip in :o)

A bed is a very personal purchase - and certainly a costly one! I’ve been a fairly silent reader for some time now and it seems to me you would prefer to be making this purchase with a significant other. Sure, there is a lot of money involved. But as many other concerned friends have stated, you need to take care of your back - and you need to get a good night’s sleep. Your health should be your foremost concern. Especially since you have little ones to care for.

I like the suggestion you let your parents pay for part of it. The important thing is for you to actually pick it out. This guarantees your comfort and makes it your personal bed. I still believe you want to wait to have that significant other to join you in making this purchase. But you will feel much better if you buy the bed now - the s.o. will come in time (especially if you have a nice bed to play on!).

I’m in for $5.

No! I don’t want to buy the bed with a significant other! :)

I dunno if my parents wanted to buy the box springs and mattress then I would probably let them. Then when you can afford it you can get the killer headboard with all the kinky features. Other then the first time you get to break it in, you wont even think about who bought it.

I understand the pride of not wanting them to get it though, its very hard to swallow pride I have found.

Couldn’t you just accept a certain amount of money from your parents for “helping you out financially” and it’s up to you what you spend it on - whether its for a gardener, new car, holiday or a certain item of furniture or lots of items of furniture, or not, doesn’t really matter or concern them, then, does it?

Dear Jackie,

Clearly you have not met my parents. :)

I’ll donate towards a new bed as long as we’ll continue to read about what’s going on in it, on it, under it, around it … well, you get the picture! ;)

A local store offers 5 years no interest with equal payments plans. I jumped at it to buy each of my kids a bunk bed for my new apartment now that I’m divorcing. For $20/month, it’s great. I splurged and bought 4 beds, but one bed might be $10/month or less if you have a store nearby with an offer like that.

Good luck on getting a bed worthy of your considerable needs and skills.

You might check Craigslist . . . I bet you could find a really nice bed, nearly new, for nearly nothing. Just to get you through until you find what you want and have the money for it.

No need to go to craigslist, and get a Used mattress. Just come on by, and I’ll set you up with a great new bed. Of course you would need to pick it up at my store in the Northwest, but the trip would do you good, and the better nights sleep you got would be worth the time. Maybe we could just trade a mattress for some of that swag you always seem to have laying around.

You might consider finding another, comparable bill that your parents could fund, leaving you the cash from your own account to buy the bed of your dreams. But I agree with everyone that you shouldn’t wait to do something about your sleeping arrangements, even if it’s just getting a foam mattress to put on top of the twin until you’re ready to buy your own lovely bed.

I understand completely.

When I moved out here, the first thing I did was buy a new bed…a euro pillow top, queen sized. I went without a dresser for months. I still don’t have a desk, but I knew that a good bed was the most important thing for my back.

I implore you, at the very least, since I know you have back problems, to invest in an egg crate or something to provide extra padding for your pore muscles and spinalness.

:)

What about the parents buying a new TWIN mattress and boxspring of medium quality, you can sleep on that until you can afford the bed of your dreams, and then one of your little ones can inherit the twin. Then, you’re still getting at least a halfway decent sleep in the meantime while still saving the big purchase for when you can do it on your own (which I totally understand).

Have you bought your bed yet? I get a discount, and know several mattress salesmen, talk to me before you buy on and I can at least put you in touch with someone who can advise you so you wont buy something you regret 5yrs from now.