20th Oct, 2007

A Question for Men About Buttsex

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After reading this post, a reader asked:

What does a man feels inside the ass as compared to the vagina? I know about the “tighter sensation” with the anal sphincter, but after that?

I was told that the vagina is like a sheath, adapting to the penis. But in the butt, the passage becomes larger after a while.

It must feel like a void, doesn’t it? What does the penis head “think” of this?

Once again I am reminded of the sad fact that I do not possess a penis and therefore cannot adequately answer this question.

It is such a cryin’ shame that we don’t come with the option of switching genitalia for just one day. Just once! I’d do it in a heartbeat. I wouldn’t want one of those big things hangin’ around forever, but just for a while. Ooooo the fun I’d have!

I’ve had my finger inside a couple of willing bottoms and I’ve felt nothing remotely resembling a void. It’s snug and hot and throbbing. However, I concede that a finger is quite unlike a cock either in length or girth.

Male readers, and especially male readers with penis heads that “think,” could you answer this question? How does it feel? How is it different?

Tell all in the comments below.

Responses

I guess my timezone means I get to go first!

First up, it’s a mind thing. Successful buttsex signifies a special bond with your partner on multiple levels.

Next, the external feelings. Pretty much any position you choose brings you into contact with some muscles (thighs, glutes) which are the strongest in your partner’s body, vital to their wellbeing, and in constant display and use. In comparison a vagina is tucked away except for those special occasions. Buttsex gives your connection a special robustness.

Internally. The outer inch or so is a snug ring, unlike a vagina (which is more of a slit shape) it grips evenly all round. Further in, it’s like a void, almost as though my cock is floating, weightless. If you don’t have a cock you can experience this by inserting your thumb into your partner as far as it will go, and pointing it to the base of their spine. Depending on their physiology (and yours) you may experience a cave-like sensation.

In terms of actual thrusting the sensation is probably a bit less than vag sex. Something that gets overlooked is that the foreskin (even on a cut penis) acts as an extra sleeve, so the swing of your hips is not exactly matched by movement where it’s tightest. However this reduced sensation is more than made up for by the other sensations I’ve measured already.

Finally, of course, since both you and your partner possess the same ‘playground’ it’s an opportunity for shared fun which sets aside the usual gender roles.

AAG- I am a female, but I have asked my darling hubby to tell all he knows about the ass. We (happily married) “normal couple” love ass play- ALOT, so he’s pretty versed in this area. Here’s what he had to say….

“It feels like getting head & pussy at the same time. We’ve been having anal sex for quite some time & it still feels the same as it did the first time we tried it. In my experience, it doesn’t become a void at all.” HTH!!

haven’t done it in living memory and even then i did it like twice and the second time wasn’t so good… and i don’t have a dick :)

mr big hasn’t successfully fulfilled that particular fantasy yet… and was not (until recently) ever expecting to get to try it.

but i expect we may remedy that someday… and in some ways i blame (er commend?) your posts.

Blame me. I can handle the blame.

:)

*sigh* I too wish I had a dick, just for one day, so I could see how all this feels.

I always thought that it all must feel *so* *fucking* *good*

Okay, 1st I would LOVE to be a guy for just one day only so that I could write my name in the snow when I pee.

Second, DucatiGuy ROCKS with that fascinatingly insightful explanation!

Third, badinfluencegirl calls him Mr. Big for a reason and so butt sex might remain a fantasy for a long while. It’s an easy trade off in her case I’m sure.

Fourth, I have no answer for you here (being a girl and all) except to say it feels simply divine.
XX

I’d love to be a woman for a day so I could experience multiple orgasms!!

As for buttsechs, it’s tight I guess, but I prefer the, um, other place. It’s easier and funner, plus clit!

I do like putting stuff (need an NJoy) up there, though!

(Too many exclamation points!!!)

Hi AAG, well it feels really tight. When you climax the tightness enhances the orgasm. Now when she uses’s her dildo on me that’s different. She gets off on the action of the dildo on her clit and the fact that she is getting to do the dirty deed to me. Try it some time, make him tune you up with his tongue first and you will love it.
Ted
PS, geoff is right about the multiple’s girls ROCK!

Whats different? The butt is usually tighter, even when fully aroused pussy is dripping. Most ladies I know are naturals in sphincter control and can make it even tighter. A variation is not really fully entering but just letting my dick move on the sphincter, this gives a guarantied explosion. Virgin asses are the best, slowly reaming the little pucker open with tounge and finger and slow so slow insertion, letting her do the pushing so any pain is of her choosing and if she wants to stop she can at any time. Which in itself feels extremely arousing to me. Once the initial penetration is achieved, the next step is by feel if she doesn’t relax and her ass ring stays very tight I stay just there and gently do short strokes or tell her to move at her comfort level. the sensation is exquisite, a tight grip on the dick head and a rippling of sensations along the whole shaft. Coming at this point feels like an explosion.
By the second time, after the reaming, most ladies are more relaxed and penetration is easy, then the sensation is different. It’s a rippling all along the shaft which gets greater if she starts squeezing her ass hole. The screwing at this point might take some time to get off which most like particular multi orgasmic girls. A couple of fingers in the pussy pushing against the ass penetrating dick is a variation but helps both to get more out of it.
Ahh, the joys of ass sex. I always prefer a virgin ass more than a virgin pussy :)

Fred

I’m absolutely fascinated by the responses…

I love your “just for one day” idea!!

Thanks DUCATIGUY and FRED for being the most detailed and precise!
It seems deep penetration is not essential, and it’s best to stay near the sphincter…
This “void” thing was intriguing me as the lower bowel is so large and loose compared to the vagina. I couln’t see where the penis head could find its satisfaction in a hollow…

Thanks also to our hostess, who manages to make an informative “sujet du jour” with my naive questions!
Love.

The sensations are completely different. First I have to agree with the comments about the sphincter. The first inch or so forms a snug ring that is very stimulating to the shaft of the penis, because let’s not forget that there is more to the dick than just the head. The first couple of inches past the corona of the penis is especially sensitive and I find the feeling of the sphincter squeezing this area to be especially pleasurable. Also, unless a woman has opted for a brazillian wax or something equally extreem, there is a certain ammount of hair around the anus. This hair gets squeezed between the penis and the anal sphincter during butsex and can give a rougher sensation on the penis (think of the ribs on a condom, ladies) that I find to be the absolute best part of the feeling. Finally, in my experience, the feeling of penetration in anal sex is much more intense than it is in vaginal intercourse. Wow, I need to go talk to my wife for a bit, hope this response helps. -Joey

Everything that’s been said by the previous men and I would add:

My wife explodes in a different type of orgasm from anal sex.

The foreplay is different as the anal openiing must be prepared, relaxed and lubed before diving in.

The sensations are totally different and the only thing I would add to the men’s previous descriptions is that the ass is much warmer than a vagina, which is a totally different sensation.

I would also add that mentally I think it adds to the dynamic of a committed relationship in a different way. You’re really doing something that is the last “taboo” in a relationship and not every couple is willing to cross that line. You’re really sharing a special thing with each other.

What an articulate and detail-oriented bunch of responses!

Keep ‘em coming!

:)

I am an admitted anal lover! Giving and receiving. In a DP I like deep penetration which allows me to feel the other penis thrusting.

During “solo” anal penetration, I really do not feel much after the initial insertion, I have developed a technique which is exceptionally intense for both of us. I insert a 0 gauge horseshoe into my frenulum piercing, slip on a condom to hold it in place, and then only insert the head of my penis along with the 10mm retaining balls past the sphincter.

Slow, repeated penetration that way have resulted in some really intense orgasms by both of us.

I most sincerely hope that a “horseshoe” in this case is NOT the same thing used on the feet of horses.

**googling**

Excuse me while I refresh my memory…There, that’s better.

There certainly is a tight sensation around the shaft of the penis and, when fully inserted, the head is indeed in a void. A bit like a hand-job just using a couple of fingers. Yes it can be hard to acheive orgasm with that degree of stimulation but withdrawing the penis partially or wholly (but always carefully!) and re-inserting gives a wonderful sensation as the head pops past the sphincter muscles.

Remember, of course, that the most powerful erogenous zone of all is the brain. The very thought of anal sex, the closeness it brings, the trust it implies and the sheer naughtiness of something that is still somewhat taboo is a powerful stimulant.

This might be an unpopular response here but…

Buttsex is nice. It has that “naughty” aspect to it. But it takes a lot of patience to get it started, something my wife and I lack when it comes to sex. In general, we consider it more trouble than it’s worth.

Oh, I’d like to have a cock for a week. I’d fuck everything I possible could. I’d fuck men, women, and jerk off all day. I’d be dangerous.

I’d want an hour-long blow job.

Mmmmmmmmm.

Um, not to be a downer but, Bad Girl and AAG, i fyou guys had cocks for a week, you would find out that fucking everything possible means very little, and that there are very few–VERY few–people who would be willing to suck it for 20 minutes, let alone an hour. Your best bet, though, would be another guy.

Having a cock can be lonely.

Please do not drench our fantasies with the chilly water of reality!

:)

Not sure how much I can add to what’s been said. From my perspective, I enjoy the taboo aspect (mental), the different kind of orgasm feel my lovers have reported, including for some pain mixed with pleasure that they find exciting, and for me, a somewhat “scratchy” feel as I go in, tighter grip on my cock, and I don’t really pay any attention to the head at that point.

Boy, don’t I WISH I could contribute something to this conversation!!!

:-(

you know i’ve always wanted to have boy bits for a while… it would be so HELPFUL to know how they actually feel when touched instead of relying on words which only approach the idea.

as for skip, i say find a lover you trust and trade off for a week or something, then you know someone is going to be willing to play.

god i love giving head… so didn’t used to but sure do love it…

and miss a secret i think we’ll manage it… with TIME

Pretty much what has been said above, think of a very tight two finger handjob. And a bit of scratchiness. On a purely physical level, it isn’t quite as good as vaginal intercourse. But the mindfuck, oh yeah. I especially like it in missionary position.

I have a question.

I’ve never done any anal play (husband not interested). It’s one of my current lover’s triggers, but he won’t go anywhere with it because I have a bleeding disorder.

Do I really need to worry about bleeding?

pezwitch i think this is a question for a doctor at least as much as a question for those more experienced in the arts of anal play

Def a question for a doctor. Don’t be shy. They’ve heard everything.

:)

Sorry to come back with my questions: but aren’t we, female, better equipped for pleasure than men?
From my own limited experience (two lovers) and from what I’ve read, our orgasms (though longer to reach with intercourse) are stronger and longer. And we can have several in succession.

I don’t know about other men, but my present boyfriend claims that he only gets 6 or 7 contractions out of every orgasms! Which seems ridiculous… Ours last much longer.

So, having a penis? Yes, for a day, to see how if feels like. But it might be disappointing.

I’ve put my fingers and my dick in the butts of women and other men, and had the fingers, dicks, and fists of men and women in my butt.

I don’t know where this ‘void’ stuff comes from. I’m put in mind of the medical term potential space. Hold your hands up in the praying position, palms together. Now stick something in between them - they move apart. Pull it back out - they move back together again.

The bottom line answer to all questions about butt sex is that it really feels good. The rest is just jibberjabber.

All the above, of course, in my personal opinionated opinion.

Thanks for the responses.

If there is potential for bleeding I don’t need to bother my doctor. The answer would be no.

I guess this will have to remain in the relm of fantasy for us. (which disappoints me.)

> jibber jabber

I’m speaking for those of us that have ordinary sized equipment ..

A void that would hold a fist? I don’t think so.

I’m with DucatiGuy and others on the void feeling and it being more of a mind thing for both partners. I’ve been with two women who were “stretchy” back there and two others who could not relax the sphincter enough for me to get a second finger in there, much less my cock which is slightly bigger than 3 fingers. Maybe I didn’t try long enough. I wasted too many years thinking I was too big for buttsex to be anything but painful for my partner. Now, I know it can be very pleasurable when done right (as well as painful when done wrong). All and all I prefer the vagina because I can be so much a rougher fucker in there with it feeling even better to my partner. However, anal is better for some of the mentally erotic aspects of it. The thought of my cum up in there leaking out slowly over time and having my lover having a tingling reminder of what we’ve done is a huge turn on for me. What has surprised me to no end is how much women have enjoyed it, too.

Personally, I’d like to hear it from the female particpants’ side . . . but that’s just me being difficult again.

Mischa.

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mr. big would like me to mention that he and likely many other men if not the majority are also capable of riding the edge and having multiple orgasms…

typically three for him but as many as five

Great discussion here, aag et al.

The website of the American Osteopathic Board of Proctology has a discussion page entitled (ahem!) Procto Port, where readers ask questions such as Can I really do x with a C@ke bottle?” I think your post would be an excellent source of information for those aspiring to enter this field of medicine or, those who are entered while in the field :-0.

Btw, did you know that, according to WikipediaProctologists often work closely with urologists? Well, I sort of expected that…

Pez Witch, there is a potential for bleeding in lots of things. Anal sex is one of them, so is vaginal sex, though less so. I really encourage you to talk it over with your doctor, not just assume it’s an act that is impossible.

If you’re doing it solo, does that make it a butt seck?

I love how this discussion of buttsex has evolved into one of women having cocks. However, call me selfish, but I just like taking cock up my ass.

AAG, I am tempted by your idea, however, of an hour long blow job. If I did have a cock, I’d be shoving it in people’s faces constantly.

Hmm…

Not only do I wish I had a cock for a day but I wish I had the ability to lick myself.

Even if I didnt have the cock I would never leave the house.

MM.. anal play.. Lovely. Thank you men for giving a little more insight to your feelings. I have to admit it was really nice to hear something other then ” mmm, uhh, oh, yesss”

THANKS!

Wherever could you have been asked that question…hehe :) I wish I could impart some knowledge, but I too am without the equipment.

I HAVE

opps, hit the wrong button.

I have a question that only the women can answer. A man in the night gets a hard on from blood pressure, dreams, pee, ect. Is there a corresponding “hard on” for a woman’s clit during the night?

Dave,

No. Not in my experience, anyway. You can wake up aroused from a good dream, but it’s the same as waking up mad at someone from a bad dream. We, at least me, I, have never in my life had a physical sexual reaction from having to pee.

Interesting conversation, folks.

I’ve woken up almost coming, which is really really annoying at 3am.

:)

Edward:

It’s not the doctor saying no I’m worried about, it is my lover saying no. I spoke with him this weekend and even *if* my doctor gave me the go ahead he would not be willing to attempt it. He is very stubborn and past experience shows that he won’t change his mind about anything dealing with my health.

He says that the majority of the pleasure he gets from anal play is psychological. It’s taboo and the trust and closeness that exploring the taboo together implies is what he wants.

So, we fantasize about it. I have incorporated a small amount of anal play while I masterbate which makes him happy. I do what I can, but I am still slightly disappointed.

i’ve never woken up like that but chelsea has orgasms in her sleep apparently…

pezwitch work yourself up to a dildo bigger than he is and then show it to him :)

I totally agree with the psychological factor being exciting and perhaps more sexy than the actual sensation itself. But also, some of my *best ever* orgasms have been when my husband has his cock in my ass and I’m masturbating. I’ve asked for a detailed description of the sensations he feels but nothing has ever eventuated. But, while in the moment he usually says things like “I love having my cock in your tight little ass” or similar usually revolving around how tight it feels.

I also agree that the trust required in anal sex is incredibly significant, I always maintained that I’d never be “the up the butt girl”. That was until I felt an overwhelming sense of safety and trust from my partner, who is now my husband. It truly strengthened the feelings that were already present.

A tip for pezwitch: lots and lots of foreplay including light stroking, kissing and gentle penetration with fingers. Lots and lots and lots and lots of lube, especially if you have a bleeding disorder. And, never underestimate the choice of position. I had attempted anal in all manner of “doggy” variations and never felt “right”. Try the traditional “girl on top” position after your foreplay, I felt as though I was in control right from the beginning. I could control speed, depth and rhythm. Most importantly, take your time: from the moment the tip of his cock touched my anus until the moment of full penetration felt like a year, in reality it was probably more like 5 - 10minutes. Then the fun starts ;-) Multiple Os…

I know this is long already but need to comment on female equivalent of morning wood. I experienced my very first orgasm at the point of waking from an erotic dream and I regularly wake up right before a giant orgasm, lovely way to start the day ;-)

I, too, have orgasms in my sleep ,and almost every time I wake up in the middle : it’s great to be conscious of it!
They happen regularly (whether I’m with someone or not) and they seem to be linked to my hormonal cycle(ovulation?).

What I love about them is that there’s no EFFORT from my part to reach them, no moving, no sweating, no panting.
I wonder why?
May be I am more relaxed and uninhibited in my dreams? But then,they don’t necessary happen during a sexual dream….

One thing I haven’t seen mentioned here: Ejaculating inside of an ass is an entirely different thing. Because the base of the cock is being squeezed, I come in what I can only describe as slow motion. I don’t shoot; I spill.

I’ve noticed the “void” thing. Not actually a void, but I like the all-around tightness of the vagina as opposed to the single-point tightness of the sphincter.

I wish all you women could have cocks at some time or another. It wouldn’t be necessary for the strap on equipment anymore so I could enjoy it from the real thing instead of the pretend cock in my ass…just wishful thinking.
Anal sex is awesome whether you give it or receive it. It is much tighter for the giver/receiver, warm, sensual and the orgasms are much more intense from my experience with my wife (who is now deceased last year at age 47). Our anal sex together was super intense, yet different than regular penis/vagina sex. We came like no other! Sure do miss that with her among other things.
Enjoy everything about your partners while you can, you don’t know what is around the corner.

I don’t spill, I shoot….and hard! I throb for minutes afterward. My wife is no small woman but her ass is not a void, it surrounds and encases my cock…I can feel the walls with the head of my penis. As I mentioned before, it is so much warmer than a vagina…it is a totally different and awesome feeling.

Her oragsm comes from a different, deeper, gutteral place. It is totally different, deeper meaning sexual orgasm for both of us.

We haven’t been ‘bad’ for a while….maybe soon?

Why not tonight?

:)

I’ve had more than one partner have her first orgasm from anal sex. But only, as H says, after taking plenty of time about it. We’re talking days and weeks, not minutes.

I think it’s to do with the intense concentration required, makes all the other inhibitors go away.

I’ll try my best AAG and report back.

My wife doesn’t like it as much as she used to. Certainly not like the time she jumped on the bed and raised her knees and said, ‘Fuck me in the ass, I’ve been wanting it all day.’ That was BEFORE any foreplay or preperation!

Reminds me of one of the stories told about Tiresias, the blind prophet out of Greek mythology.

Now there was among the Thebans a soothsayer, Tiresias, son of Everes and a nymph Chariclo, of the family of Udaeus, the Spartan,1 and he had lost the sight of his eyes. Different stories are told about his blindness and his power of soothsaying… Hesiod says that he beheld snakes copulating on Cyllene, and that having wounded them he was turned from a man into a woman, but that on observing the same snakes copulating again, he became a man. Hence, when Hera and Zeus disputed whether the pleasures of love are felt more by women or by men, they referred to him for a decision. He said that if the pleasures of love be reckoned at ten, men enjoy one and women nine. Wherefore Hera blinded him, but Zeus bestowed on him the art of soothsaying.

The saying of Tiresias to Zeus and Hera.
Of ten parts a man enjoys one only;
But a woman enjoys the full ten parts in her heart.

Ahh…the effortless orgasm. Well said, Annie.

I love the audience this blog brings: seamless discussion around topics such as cocks, anal fucking, greek mythology, trust and sleepy orgasms. I feel at home.
I’ve been lurking for a few months.

I can’t add much (or in fact, anything) to the anal discussion, but I did find an article about girl wet dreams… http://traceycox.ivillage.com/love/2007/08/do_women_also_have_wet_dreams_1.html

My experiences (as penetrator - bad word choice) are all good - but usually in the frame of making great efforts to be gentle. One of the sensations that’s particularly nice is - perhaps it’s just my imagination - of a series of rings, each applying some pressure. I’ve thought that it was part of the anal musculature.

On the other side - when we’re in MFM situations - it gets me very turned on - but because I need a lot of time, I feel like I’m slowing the group down. But given enough time - and I’d certainly enjoy every minute of it -
MM

I’ve been trying, with great amounts of coaxing, to talk my husband into it. He “accidently” slipped a while back and I could have cried when he pulled out. We’ve attempted it a couple more times. Tonight he said he couldn’t see what the hype was about.

So I have a question, what if you have a vibe going at the same time as anal sex - Men? How’s that feel…

Ooooooooooooo god it feels sooooo gooooodddddd!

Oh wait, I’m not a guy…

:)

I have sleep orgasms probably weekly, AND occasionally I orgasm if I hold on for a few seconds before I wee! Weird eh.

A vibe in either hole, whilst simultaneously filling the other, is quite… exquisite, to say the least. The lining between the two holes is quite thin and all movement (vibration and sliding back and forth) is felt by both parties.

In regards to the original topic, anal sex is not just for the well prepared hole either. More than not, preparation is needed to make it a painless situation for the receiver (as well as the giver in some cases), but there are also times where pain is invited.

Now, before going further, I understand that many (if not most) women prefer a man to be gentle and careful in this act and for these women, I am as gentle as a lamb. There is however a certain type of woman who neither wants nor likes gentle anal sex. It is for these women that I occasionally long for.

There is a feeling that has not yet been described by the other men responding. It is the feeling of “raping” (for lack of a better word) your partner’s ass. It is powerful… powerful in a way that is at once taboo and scarily ego building as well.

One particularly adventurous partner of mine could not reach orgasm until I literally rammed myself into that oh so tight hole. The more forcefully I pushed, and the less preparation I used, sent her into such a powerful orgasm that I would have to push harder throughout just to continue thrusting.

I admit, this type of anal sex is not for the weak of heart, and I do quite prefer anal sex with foreplay, although I too have enjoyed (with that same partner) the experience of being opened up that way and must admit, I enjoyed it. It is a novelty from time to time, I guess. I wouldn’t want it that way all the time, but when that partner had that “rape fantasy” look in her eyes, it was all I could do to get the ropes fastened.

Hmmm, I’m going to have to try that with my hubby. I’ve been slowly introducing him to it, but he says,”I don’t get what the attraction is…” so either he is still freaked about putting his penis in an asshole or…it really doesn’t do anything. First guy I’ve come across that felt that way - oddly enough.

How’d I miss this?

I agree with the remarks made by other men about tightness, the “naughty” or “taboo” factor, and about closeness… but, for me, there is also the visual to go along with all of those things….it’s quite a turn on to watch my dick push into that tight space. It’s amazing.

Here is one thing, though… for me, I can take it or leave it, but when a woman ASKS for it… well, the doing is just mechanical. If she asks for it, I am going to come like a friggin’ freight train.

Omg, this woman loves it when y’all come like a friggin’ freight train.

:)

I just came across your blog a second time, and have spent the past hour reading many different posts…wonderful insights!

But I once wrote a description of what sex physically feels like from a man’s pov, which this request reminds me of, and as I enjoy anal penetration… (For those who have yet to try it, “Anal Sex for Women” is a perfect and funny book on it.)

Something the earlier descriptions leave out is the different feelings at different points of this wonderful act.

The initial penetration is exquisite, because despite preparation, it usually requires absolute slowness, that combined with the emotional trust and connection, the greater intimacy, really heightens the whole thing and allows for nothing but focusing on the sensations.

Then, what’s found within, not a void at all to my feel, but more like soft yielding velvet. A perfect compliment to the soft sensitive skin of the penis head.

Rather than feeling like direct stimulation from the ridges of vaginal walls, it’s a wonderful gentle touch of heightened bliss, without an obvious point of source.

That contrasts with what is happening on the shaft then, as the tight sphincter feels so amazing!

Then as her body responds, and so far all my lovers have reacted similarly, desiring slow as they adjusted, then suddenly screaming and demanding fast and hard with no middle ground, and the sphincter is fully relaxed, the two sensations blur together. This is when pulling out completely leaves a fully open tunnel (amazing).

Meanwhile, the orgasm builds entirely differently for me. A more gradual progression, rather than masturbation or vaginal penetration which directly ties the speed and pressure of stimulation to my climax, mostly focused in my crotch, from anal it is more “full bodied” and diffuse.

Then add the psychological parts, vaginal penetration is so routine, anal is special. The visual elements. The amazing way our bodies work.

The orgasm builds more like the tide coming in, not observable, but relentless nonetheless, rather than waves crashing on the shore.

Finally it all comes together to be far more intense, the whole world drops away to be nothing but the wonderful feelings flowing my body, through that intimate connection with hers and her reactions to the greater intimacy too.

Intense. So overwhelmingly intense.

Whoa.

Niiiiice.

Times like these I wish I were a dude…

:)

I’ve read the responses and agree with most but have this to add. For me, the difference, the main difference between what it’s like for me between vaginal and anal sex takes place mostly between my ears.

I love having sex with my wife. We are the prototypical boring-ass, domesticated suburbanites committed to life-long monogamous fucking. There are times, about half the time, actually, when we have sex where we can fit it into the schedule (we have 3 kids). Those times are nice. That is about the extent of adjectives that can be associated with those sessions, nice. The release is nice, the closeness is nice, the cuddling and the pecks on the cheeks, are, nice.

But the other times, the times when my otherwise conservative wife has arranged for an overnight sitter, or has waited a couple of hours for the kids to get into deep REM sleep, we really get down to business.

That is when we have the dirty sex, the nasty sex, when the butt gets spanked and the ass gets fucked. That is when she loses her inhibitions and really gets into, begging for me to fuck her ass hard. It‘s when she comes the hardest and screams the loudest. That for me is the best, and principally, the difference between putting my dick in her ass and putting my dick in her pussy.

It feels best for me, when I can make it feel great for her…

Yeah it’s all in the brains.
Mind you some chicks say we guys have our brains in our genitals…
It’s about the pleasure of being overwhelmingly invasive.

On one occasion my lover requested a massage from me. We were both naked, in a very warm room, on a massage table. She had some tight muscle issues in her back that she requested that I assist to release. She happened to be laying on her right side, with her left knee raised up rather high. I positioned myself to permit my growing penis to be placed outside her vagina as I applied massage oil to her back for ideal lubrication. I included her hips in my ministrations and would occasionally gently stroke my penis on the exterior, labia majora. I had one foot on the floor. One knee on the table, squeezed up close so as I massaged I could gently sway forward with my hands up her lovely back and then all the way back to her glutes. When she moaned in slight easy sighs and a few remarks about the pleasure of the rub, she communicated her pleasure to me rather succinctly. She raised her left leg off the massage table, placed it upon the nearby wall and slightly rotated her body towards the left as well… opening a rather large space in which to glide back and forth with my penis… and my hands around her now glistening thighs. On one of the forward leaning sweeps with my hands my penis became poised at her anus and I stopped. I let it sit there. I was rock hard… felt nearly bursting. Immediately she barked a sound that was far from pain, but closer to surprise. She arched her back and grasped my penis from behind with her left hand. Noticing that the valley between her butt cheeks was very dry, I let drop a bit of spittle onto my penis, hoping my aim would be good and hit myself, letting the spittle flow gradually around its curves and into the warm snug valley between her glut cheeks. It worked. Repeating my moves, repeating my spit drop, I gradually found that there was enough moisture that my penis no longer felt the drag of dryness, but the slide of muscle against muscle. Now, as I leaned forward with my hands upon her back, occasionally to her left breast, I found my penis had discovered its very own warm tight land that was simultaneously stimulatingly moist, hot… it raised my awareness of “where” was at and wondered if …..

I massaged her hips and glutes with a conciseness that encouraged further stimulation. I stopped gliding between her cheeks and positioned myself directly upon her anus and I massaged her glutes even more, gradually taking all side pressure away, leaving the single solo gentle but concise pressure upon her anus with its clear unrelenting voice. She shifted her body once again, opening even wider and bore her weight back towards me. The moaning took on an additional pitch that communicated that she was taking this to a different, higher level. I stood my ground. I dropped additional spittle upon her butt having missed my intended mark. No word of discouragement passed through her lips. Her strong hands joined my hands as I held her hips and she pushed back and I pushed forward and I passed through the ring accompanied by the sound of loud moaning and faster breathing. I held my ground and did not move. She arched her back, grabbed at her cheeks and expressed her delight as we became a union unique for the both of us.

I was only thinking, the other day, how badly I’d like a penis.
I’m glad I’m not alone in this! Ha ha

well I guess its the fact that guys like to be dominant, besides nothing would make a womans emotions go crazier than that, for the first time

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