Finally I took my bad self to the doctor for the miserable back pain I’ve been feeling over the past several months. I didn’t go because I wanted to, but only because my friends were getting damn sick of my groaning around like an 80 year old.
The doctor poked at my knees, ankles and back. She administered what amounted to a field sobriety test (apparently I don’t have any neurological issues, good on me). She asked about the kind of bed upon which I slept.
And then she asked, “Have you recently begun any new types of physical activity?”
My mind flashed back to precisely twelve hours before the appointment. On a thick pile of blankets and cushions spread out across the floor, my friend and I played. He slid a pillow beneath my bottom before entering me; I planted my heels on his shoulders and pushed to give him just the right angle of entrance into me. Damn that feels good.
Later he entered me from behind while I braced my upper body against a couch. That worked fine for a while, but then I needed more and harder and closer…so I brought my knees up from the floor, stretching my body out into a plank as he drove into me. He slumped onto me after he came, forcing us both down on the couch and eventually into a puddle of exhausted and happy flesh on the floor.
I left the appointment with a prescription for pain killers and a referral to a physical therapist. And I didn’t feel the least bit bad about telling my doctor that no, no I hadn’t recently begun any new types of physical activity.
Do you think that was a mistake?
not a mistake. esp. considering there isn’t anything she could say that would make you stop the…ehem…”new” type of physical activity.
i’m lucky seeing a acupuncturist and all. in my mind no lab coat, no filter. i tell her just about everything. even told her the time she totally turned me on while i was half off the table sobbing. “i want you to fuck me” isn’t something i would normally say to my m.d.
my advice: ditch the drugs. see an acupuncturist.
*shrugs* Its your call. I personally tell my doctor everything. Everything. Really. I don’t care if she thinks I’m a tramp.
Shite, I even told, and discussed, the fact that I now go to orgies and such with my therapist.
She actually seemed rather interested….and she is pretty hot. But alas, a good therapist is hard to find!
Actually the physical therapist is going to clue you in if you are straining the back in any ways. They will ask about what positions or things aggravate the back and then let you know certain positions to avoid. Mind you they don’t include sexual positions but hey if its a cool PT person, they will if you ask. Backs are a funny thing – you are best to do everything you can to treat them yourself. PT exercises, icing, heat, pain meds and acupuncture is an excellent way to go. Realistically sex really isn’t going to hurt (and the back will let you know if it does) – you are releasing endorphins which is pain relief.
I think you should have told her, just to brag…
I agree with Rupert.
Make sure your shoes fit, your fit and you do some simple stretching every other day or so.
Sometimes something as simple as laying on your back and pulling one knee up to your chest, then the other leg up keeping straight … up as far as you can a few times switching legs will stretch the muscles pulling on your spine.
Oooh, you know whats also good? Get a heating pad – NOT electric. There are some great ones made that you can put in the microwave, or put in the freezer. But make sure you get one that uses moist heat. I always forget why, but my Chiro says wet heat, and I listen to him when it comes to my back.
I love my heating pad. More than I love sex.
(He’s actually the only Dr. I never told about my sex life, coz he’s a friend of my Dad, and at the time, he was also my boss. After my first few orgies, where I was…extra vigorous, I would need to get adjusted. I told him I had been out ‘dancing’.)
In fact, my roomies often can’t tell if I’m wanking, or using my heating pad. I’m on the bed, no shirt, and moaning. (I also use my Acuvibe as a back massager – that one really messes with them, since I leave my clothes on and the door open. They hear buzzing and groans, and start freaking out. Its awesome)
The heating pad is also great for period cramps, and the crankies.
Makes me wish the pain in my back was even possibly due to the kinds of activities you’re describing.
GL with it, back pain is bloody miserable
Good Wednesday morning AAG,
Robin said it well, as did Tom and Wendy.
Of course, taking 30 mg. ofvalium and going straight to bed for 12 hours did the trick in getting rid of the excruciating back spasms.
But then in the weeks that followed I had to :
Daily stretching and orthotics in my shoes helped me to avoid back pain, but I also did a lot of ab exercises to strengthen my ‘core muscles’.
And got a new tempurpedic mattress.
And didn’t try giving head when he was on top of me and I’d be bobbing my neck like a spastic woodpecker…:)
Good luck. My empathy.
Loving Annie
Chiropractor is wonderful. But only if your health plan covers.
On the positive side, maybe you have a budding career as a contortionist with Cirque du Soleil.
personally i tell my doctor everything. new partners, weed, when i drink too much, everything.
how else can she treat me?
that said, if you email me the name of your town i can see if there are any good pilates teachers in your hood…
that said, try supporting under your hips when you’re fucking from behind :)
Bad Influence Girl – I tell my doctor about my recreational marijuana use too. Actually, she always says that she’d rather I be smoking pot, and not my ciggies.
I love my doctor.
I think you’re ok, as long as you’re off to see a PT (you might want to tell him or her, most are pretty open)
When I had a displacing pelvis, and a brand new PT, I had to do the “um, so…hypothetically, if I was going to have sex this weekend, is that ok?”
She smiled, and just said “hypothetically, I’d stay as symmetrical as possible – no crazy kama sutra antics”
And this was from a woman in Colorado Springs, home of Focus on the Family, the Air Force Academy, and the conservative EVIL.
Hi AAG,
Pilates is great– strengthens the core.
I’m of the mind to ALWAYS tell your physician everything. If you can’t, then get a new doctor.
XO
Chuck
Definitely talk to the PT-that’s who’s going to tell you if what you’re doing is bad for your back. Only if you feel comfortable with the person, obviously.
Also, how is your posture on a day to day basis. It’s amazing the problems that can cause. Believe me, been there done that.
Yup. You didn’t have to drip glistening detail, but people who hide things from their docs hurt themselves.
Drop me a note email – this is the world I work in for my 9 to 5.
Nah, it’s good you kept it to yourself, although, like Rupert, a little braggin’ never hurt anyone!
I’ve always enjoyed rough play on my own nipples, and she gladly obliges. One morning I woke up almost fainting from the pain. I discovered that in all the yanking and biting and pulling, I had pulled a tendon behind my nipple. It’s been about a month and it’s better…but hey, we all give it up for the ‘O’, now don’t we?
Yes, I think it was a mistake. You wouldn’t have to go into serious DETAIL, just “My sex life has expanded significantly over the past 6 months, so I’m more physically active sexually.”
Now, the PT… PTs are sadistic. BUT… They can be used. Tell the PT this, let the PT know that because of the increased activity, you think (barring other problems) that this may have something to do with it.
I’d also flip the mattress just to be sure it’s not the mattress. I’ve done that and had pain almost magically go away.
Robin wrote “They will ask about what positions or things aggravate the back and then let you know certain positions to avoid.”
I’m reminded of that OLD Vaudeville joke.
Patient: Doctor, Doctor. It hurts when I do that.
Doctor: ‘den don’t DOOO ‘dat!!
I would have told her but then I tell my doctor everything also. But that’s also why I recently started hitting the gym again. I need to be able to recover from my escapades!!
my experience is that the vast majority of chiropractors are quacks, who are also taught unproven stuff like acupuncture, homeopathy, energy lines, auras, etc. etc.
Stay safe – see a physiotherapist if you need to.
And yeah, I would have been honest with your doctor. What’s the point of going to one if you’re just going to lie about yourself? Are you going to lie to your physio too?
Griffyn! Hush up! Let’s not call anyone a quack ’round here!
Geez!
I think it might be that you’re using muscles, tendons, ligaments, etc. that were not being used very much before. You’ll need some adjustment time and frequent use of those body parts. I’ll bet you’ll be just fine very soon. ;)
Well it’s not a new type of physical activity is it? Sex is the oldest type of physical activity there is. So it’s not that you didn’t answer honestly it’s that your Doctor phrased the question in the wrong way.
AAG….
I think you should always tell your doctor. There could be something more than just a strain that should be treated. If you aren’t comfortable telling, then get a new doctor.
Also, you don’t have to tell “everything”.
Also, definitely your PT will help.. follow his/her exercise recommendations completely.
I might also ask- “how good is your partner at massage”? A good hot shower followed by a strong deep massage (not too deep.. I don’t recommend Rolfing) can be very therapeutic, and can also be a new way to “explore”.
Finally, an overall focus on strengthening your “core” will be a big plus for your lengthy sessions, and also for other activities of daily living.
Good luck!.. Don’t forget to report back later!
Wow. I’ve been chastised, and have no idea why. Are opinions not tolerated?
:) We try not to knock anyone’s profession ’round here. Usually. :)
Did you post a question about this on askMefi?
Nope! The hive mind scares me! :)
One thing you’ve left out of the equation is that you’re carrying around a baby or two, and they’re getting big and heavy. Obviously there’s no way your’re going to stop carying them, but try to remember to switch hips and arms carrying them.
Yoga is good for back pain too, see if there’s a good place near you or just get a dvd or two and do it at home while the kids are sleeping. It’s really good for relieving stress too, which may also help the back pain. Everything always seems to be connected.