Comments on: Is Buttsex Really Worth It?

By: Kuri

Kuri — Tue, 11 Sep 2007 04:30:18 +0000

Up until recently I was on the same boat as Annie. “Why?” I read AAG’s fabulous how-to’s, thought it was interesting, but not something I or my partner (I asked) were interested in. Maybe someday, but not now. I just didn’t feel the need or have a strong enough curiosity.

Then a certain night ago, we wound up experimenting and it was pretty damn fun. Not something that’s gonna be a daily occurance, but fun enough for both of us to add it to our list of variety.

As a long-time lurker, first time commenter, Thank You AAG! (despite the fact that we completely skipped your steps to good buttsex, I’m still glad I read them!)

By: Peter Throckmorton

Peter Throckmorton — Tue, 11 Sep 2007 00:28:22 +0000

Well, my comment now lost, was simply a response to the question of “is buttsex worth it”?

Yes.

By: chik'n

chik'n — Mon, 10 Sep 2007 18:25:41 +0000

I’ve had anal with a few partners—some who were careful with me and some who were not. I never really enjoyed it. I’d given up on it, but my current partner wanted to try it for the first time and out of my deep love for him and desire to let him experience anything and everything his 33 years of repression haven’t allowed, I agreed.

The first time it was okay. The second time it was okay. The third time? I saw fireworks. I didn’t have an orgasm, but I definitely enjoyed it.

It’s not something we do very often, but it is something we enjoy when we’re in the mood for something a little dirty. (Not literally dirty. Ahem.)

By: aag

aag — Mon, 10 Sep 2007 15:04:02 +0000

ANNIE,

I wish you’d been able to read all the responses before my little database melt-down. There were many, many more, but most echoed that it can be wonderful to some people but it’s by no means necessary.

:)

By: ANNIE

ANNIE — Mon, 10 Sep 2007 14:35:35 +0000

Thank you so much, dear Aag, for your long and interesting answer! And thanks also Loving Annie, Cherry and Brian..

I am just curious about anal sex at this early stage of my sex life. I read a lot about it, and this blog is my favourite (You’re a GOOD writer, Aag!).

I was puzzled to read on different sites that some women claim they actually PREFER anal to vaginal sex!
It seemed so incredible, and I wondered if there was someting wrong with their pussies from the start…
Vaginal sex for me is SO good, so obvious, so effortless!
But who knows, maybe one day I’ll try the other way, out of curiosity…And I’ll follow your detailed instructions!

Love,

Annie

By: aag

aag — Mon, 10 Sep 2007 12:33:16 +0000

Yes, there was a problem with the database. Several days’ worth of comments and a week’s worth of already-written posts were lost, dagnabbit.

:)

By: Brian

Brian — Mon, 10 Sep 2007 06:19:26 +0000

Wow, I think this post lost all its replies – last I checked there was about 26 and now they’re 2. Darn shame, there was some great comments added! :(

By: Cherrie

Cherrie — Mon, 10 Sep 2007 05:34:10 +0000

Well said, AAG. Anal sex is like anything else in the sexual universe: try it once, and if you like it keep experimenting with it. If you don’t, then stop there. Don’t worry about fads or fashions. You are having sex, first and foremost, to please yourself.

By: Loving Annie

Loving Annie — Mon, 10 Sep 2007 00:57:55 +0000

I think you said it very well, AAG.

Anal sex is something that you usually learn to accept, to want, to be curious about, and then, if you have a wonderful partner who goes very slowly and you are lubricated and relaxed enough, and he goes from small things like a pinky finger or a tongue before he moves on to bigger things like a butt plug or his penis, then it can become a very welcome experience, and finally one you absolutely crave and enjoy hugely….

It is like enjoying different kinds of food, or soft drinks – or positions in bed… Just something that adds variety to an already safe playground between you and the person you love.

I wanted nothing to do with it for my first 15 years of having sex. Thought it was dirty/unnecessary/it hurt, etc…

Finally I allowed someone to try while we were making love doggy style. While he was in my vagina, he gently teased my bottom with a lubricated finger…. Once I relaxed — and eventually I did — I quite liked it…

And from then, my curiosity grew…
Now, I want it almost as much as I love vaginal sex… Different, exciting, and I know what will feel comofrtable and what positions won’t… And how to relax, and what sort of lubrications helps, etc….

Good luck Annie ! I hope your partner makes it very very good for you if you ever decide to try !