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The other day, a sweet reader named Annie left me this question:

“…Anal sex seems to be all the rage. Is it really worth it? As a woman, you are obviously able to compare with vaginal sex. I mean, is it not a fad…? Why would a woman need anal sex, when she’s got a vagina, the ideal self-lubrified device that mother nature specially crafted for the purpose?”

Dear Annie,

Anal sex may be all the rage, but it is not for everyone. If it squicks you out to think about it, you shouldn’t do it. You especially shouldn’t do it with someone who tells you that everyone else is doing it.

‘Cause someone who tells you that is just trying to pressure you, and asses don’t respond well to peer pressure.

Anal sex might be a fad; I can’t answer that question. I have no idea. Let me tell you what. I’ll keep on having anal sex for the next 50 years, and then I’ll get back to you on whether or not it’s a fad. Do we have a deal, Annie?

Now as far as “needing” anal sex. Do you mean would your average woman die without it? Of course not. Humans need physical contact, emotional bonding, and a healthy dose of lurve, but all that can be obtained in ways other than by putting something up your ass.

And sure, Annie, you’re right; the vagina does generally self-lubrify (love that!) quite nicely. It does a wonderful job of welcoming in hard cock and (in my experience, at least) it seems to enjoy the presence of hard cock immensely.

Shall we summarize? Anal sex could be a fad, and it’s certainly not something you need, because (as you so rightly point out, Annie) the vagina is a right nice place for sex.

But sometimes, sometimes we do things not because we need to, but because we want to. Because we really REALLY want to. Because for months or even years, we’ve wanted to. Because something deep inside our tiny reptilian brains screams out in a voice that cannot be ignored, “Penetrate my bottom!”

And if you are wise, if you love your ass (and why wouldn’t you love your ass?) you will listen to that part of your brain, because (and this is the secret) ass sex feels really great to some people. It feels really great to some men and some women. It feels really great to some straight folks and some not-straight folks.

It doesn’t feel better than vaginal sex, nor does it feel worst than vaginal sex. It just feels different. It feels different in the same way that oral sex feels different than vaginal sex. It feels different in the same way that blue looks different from red. It feels different in the same way that lasagna tastes different from steak.

None of those things are intrinsically better or worse. They are just different.

If you are among those folks for whom anal sex feels really great, you’ll know what I mean, Annie. You’ll know exactly why it’s worth the effort to prepare your ass (and your mind) for anal sex. You’ll know exactly why you devote the time to working with your partner toward anal sex.

You do it because buttsex feels really great, and it feels really great to share that really great feeling with your partner.

And the only way you’ll know if you are one of the folks who loves anal sex is if you try anal sex.

But Annie, please don’t have anal sex until you know you want to try. When you are ready to try, a small voice in your head will start begging. You’ll be enjoying your traditional sexual activities when suddenly you’ll hear, “Play with me, please!”

And you’ll discover that it’s your ass begging for attention. If that happens, consider exploring buttsex.

If that never ever happens, don’t worry about it. There are dozens if not hundreds or even thousands of other quite wonderful sexual activities you can enjoy without ever bringing your ass into the mix.

Does all this help, Annie?

Readers, any other suggestions for Annie? Leave them in the comments, please.