Comments on: Gifted http://aagblog.com/2007/08/07/gifted/ ~ videamus quid sit exilium. nempe loci commutatio.~ Thu, 22 Dec 2011 14:33:19 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: aag http://aagblog.com/2007/08/07/gifted/comment-page-1/#comment-3736 aag Wed, 08 Aug 2007 14:17:55 +0000 http://aagblog.com/2007/08/07/gifted/#comment-3736 <b> Ok then! Forgive me for jumping to conclusions! :) </b>

Ok then!

Forgive me for jumping to conclusions!

:)

]]> By: Finn http://aagblog.com/2007/08/07/gifted/comment-page-1/#comment-3734 Finn Wed, 08 Aug 2007 14:04:42 +0000 http://aagblog.com/2007/08/07/gifted/#comment-3734 That's not what I meant, silly girl! :) What I meant was that you're putting out because you want to, and that he doesn't need to ply you with gifts to get you into bed. There's no ulterior motive. That’s not what I meant, silly girl! :)

What I meant was that you’re putting out because you want to, and that he doesn’t need to ply you with gifts to get you into bed. There’s no ulterior motive.

]]> By: Greyor http://aagblog.com/2007/08/07/gifted/comment-page-1/#comment-3718 Greyor Wed, 08 Aug 2007 01:38:31 +0000 http://aagblog.com/2007/08/07/gifted/#comment-3718 Dinner is great, because it's a way for a guy to show he cares -- I guess I'm just old-fashioned like that. I try to pay for dinner whenever I can, personally, and I think of it as a nice occasion when I take my girlfriend out to dinner. I wouldn't take it as placating you, I think he's just trying to be a gentleman. Besides, if you're both into the sex, why would either of you need any coaxing or placation to continue? One generally placates if they feel guilty, too, but it doesn't sound like that's the case here. My girlfriend's much the same way as you with gifts -- she doesn't want nor require inane gifts out of the blue to stay happy. and I think that's a good way to be. Although these aren't required, when they do come, take them in stride and know that he means well. and by all means, continue to not require gifts -- when you get into a relationship where it's a constant game of giving and receiving gifts, that's never good news. It all balances out in the end (same with money loaned/received). phew. sorry for the long comment. I try to keep up with your lovely blog, and I don't comment all the time, but when I do have something to say I try to. I always enjoy reading your stuff, dear. Dinner is great, because it’s a way for a guy to show he cares — I guess I’m just old-fashioned like that. I try to pay for dinner whenever I can, personally, and I think of it as a nice occasion when I take my girlfriend out to dinner. I wouldn’t take it as placating you, I think he’s just trying to be a gentleman.

Besides, if you’re both into the sex, why would either of you need any coaxing or placation to continue? One generally placates if they feel guilty, too, but it doesn’t sound like that’s the case here.

My girlfriend’s much the same way as you with gifts — she doesn’t want nor require inane gifts out of the blue to stay happy. and I think that’s a good way to be. Although these aren’t required, when they do come, take them in stride and know that he means well. and by all means, continue to not require gifts — when you get into a relationship where it’s a constant game of giving and receiving gifts, that’s never good news. It all balances out in the end (same with money loaned/received).

phew. sorry for the long comment. I try to keep up with your lovely blog, and I don’t comment all the time, but when I do have something to say I try to. I always enjoy reading your stuff, dear.

]]> By: Lolly http://aagblog.com/2007/08/07/gifted/comment-page-1/#comment-3717 Lolly Wed, 08 Aug 2007 01:32:13 +0000 http://aagblog.com/2007/08/07/gifted/#comment-3717 Accept it just cuz YOU are a GIRL. Simple as that. Now you have to take it. Accept it just cuz YOU are a GIRL.

Simple as that. Now you have to take it.

]]> By: George http://aagblog.com/2007/08/07/gifted/comment-page-1/#comment-3716 George Wed, 08 Aug 2007 00:01:34 +0000 http://aagblog.com/2007/08/07/gifted/#comment-3716 It's not so much that the others do not listen to hints or outright lists. They read and hear what you want but because they think they know you better than you know yourself, they will pick something that they feel you will like better than anything on the list. remember the old adage ... it's the thought that counts ... bullshit ... it's also the gift. It takes good eyes and good ears to hear him/her It’s not so much that the others do not listen to hints or outright lists. They read and hear what you want but because they think they know you better than you know yourself, they will pick something that they feel you will like better than anything on the list. remember the old adage … it’s the thought that counts … bullshit … it’s also the gift. It takes good eyes and good ears to hear him/her

]]> By: Nadine http://aagblog.com/2007/08/07/gifted/comment-page-1/#comment-3715 Nadine Wed, 08 Aug 2007 00:01:03 +0000 http://aagblog.com/2007/08/07/gifted/#comment-3715 I know what you mean - I make explicit lists and have managed to coax most of the family into my "non surprise" gift giving practices. I'm just too busy to be running around returning things I didn't want or need. Cold? OK? I know what you mean – I make explicit lists and have managed to coax most of the family into my “non surprise” gift giving practices. I’m just too busy to be running around returning things I didn’t want or need. Cold? OK?

]]> By: jt http://aagblog.com/2007/08/07/gifted/comment-page-1/#comment-3714 jt Tue, 07 Aug 2007 23:58:02 +0000 http://aagblog.com/2007/08/07/gifted/#comment-3714 I must preface this with the disclaimer that I have a deep and abiding love of presents - even the awful ones that are completely not my style...probably because it's exceedingly rare for me to receive a gift that's <i>obligatory</i>. My gifties arrive because people truly care. They might miss the mark completely (and oh, I have some hideous things), but I know they tried and I love that they <i>wanted</i> to give me something. I know the same isn't true for you. That said, this yummy man of yours has always worked hard to please you in the past. Why would this case be any different? And...why have you been (so very) successfully pleasured thus far? Mostly, I infer, because you've communicated. Again, why should this be any different? Communicate your anxieties, your frustrations, your desires, your whatever about getting gifts. Who knows, maybe the presents will be on par with everything else. ;) And even if they're not, you can (try to) enjoy the thought that they come from a desire to please you, not because, shit, it's your birthday, and he has to give you <i>something</i>. Also, for the record, imagine the sexual tension of the two of you in some fancy schmancy restaurant where you're utterly tormenting each other, being deliciously provocative with your food. Public foreplay. I expect a full report. Love your blog. Love it. :) I must preface this with the disclaimer that I have a deep and abiding love of presents – even the awful ones that are completely not my style…probably because it’s exceedingly rare for me to receive a gift that’s obligatory. My gifties arrive because people truly care. They might miss the mark completely (and oh, I have some hideous things), but I know they tried and I love that they wanted to give me something. I know the same isn’t true for you.

That said, this yummy man of yours has always worked hard to please you in the past. Why would this case be any different? And…why have you been (so very) successfully pleasured thus far? Mostly, I infer, because you’ve communicated. Again, why should this be any different? Communicate your anxieties, your frustrations, your desires, your whatever about getting gifts. Who knows, maybe the presents will be on par with everything else. ;)

And even if they’re not, you can (try to) enjoy the thought that they come from a desire to please you, not because, shit, it’s your birthday, and he has to give you something.

Also, for the record, imagine the sexual tension of the two of you in some fancy schmancy restaurant where you’re utterly tormenting each other, being deliciously provocative with your food. Public foreplay. I expect a full report.

Love your blog. Love it. :)

]]> By: darkpixie http://aagblog.com/2007/08/07/gifted/comment-page-1/#comment-3713 darkpixie Tue, 07 Aug 2007 23:32:15 +0000 http://aagblog.com/2007/08/07/gifted/#comment-3713 it is sweet that he wants to get you a gift...and i understand getting those gifts that you never wanted in the first place....perhaps, you could go to dinner and maul each other in the restroom? lol xoxo it is sweet that he wants to get you a gift…and i understand getting those gifts that you never wanted in the first place….perhaps, you could go to dinner and maul each other in the restroom? lol

xoxo

]]> By: sub lyn http://aagblog.com/2007/08/07/gifted/comment-page-1/#comment-3711 sub lyn Tue, 07 Aug 2007 22:01:48 +0000 http://aagblog.com/2007/08/07/gifted/#comment-3711 How about having him <a href="http://longdistancesub.blogspot.com/2007/08/binding-old-and-new.html" rel="nofollow">tie your legs together</a> under the table at dinner? It certainly added a whole new dimension to my last dinner out! How about having him tie your legs together under the table at dinner? It certainly added a whole new dimension to my last dinner out!

]]> By: badinfluencegirl http://aagblog.com/2007/08/07/gifted/comment-page-1/#comment-3709 badinfluencegirl Tue, 07 Aug 2007 21:06:50 +0000 http://aagblog.com/2007/08/07/gifted/#comment-3709 "And I don’t want it. I don’t want to be the girl who has to be fed a fancy meal before she’ll put out. I don’t need to be taken to a movie before I’ll bestow a kiss. I do not require wining and dining." oh love yes you do... we ALL do... we just need it to be given to us with love instead of hidden expectations that we be someone else. and hon? he WANTS to do it for the right reasons.... maybe it's time to try some of that trust stuff okay? “And I don’t want it. I don’t want to be the girl who has to be fed a fancy meal before she’ll put out. I don’t need to be taken to a movie before I’ll bestow a kiss. I do not require wining and dining.”

oh love

yes you do… we ALL do… we just need it to be given to us with love instead of hidden expectations that we be someone else.

and hon? he WANTS to do it for the right reasons…. maybe it’s time to try some of that trust stuff okay?

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